friends first, then grew on eachother
or
in love from the beginning?
2007-01-15 00:40:28 · 11 answers · asked by adorable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks. I can't really put a best answer on this cause you guys were all great! (and happily in love:) Thanks, cause I wanted to get the general consensus of how lovers evolved, and you guys were great! I just forgot to ask how long you guys have been together
2007-01-15 01:11:29 · update #1
Friends first, then grew on each other.
2007-01-15 00:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by voodooprankster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the most wonderful Father on earth. I always said that if I ever met a guy as wonderful, intelligent, and witty as my Father I would have to marry him.
Well the love of my life came into my life 2 years ago. I fell in love almost immediately, that is so not me.Usually I am very cautious in love but I was out of control. I could not explain it but it fell like the little girl in me and picked him out for some reason and was jumping up and down screaming "He's the one!! Pick him he's perfect..." But I couldn't explain where the feeling was coming from. Within a very short time, while we were still getting to know each other, before we were even dating, he began to show up in ALL of my dreams every night; nothing sexy, he was just there with me in every aspect of my life, in my dreams. It was so comforting to wake up and realize I had had another dream about him and I would replay the scenarios over and over throughout the day. Soon that trust that was building in my dreams translated into a full blown crush.
This is weird, after we started dating I noticed that I was never sure at first between my Father's and my lover's voices on the phone when they would call. Then one day I was hurrying down the hall and a framed picture of me as young child with my entire family caught my eye. I did a double take because I thought I had seen a picture of my lover on the wall. My Father who is now 80 was a handsome thin, muscular 40+ year old man who could be my 40+ year old lover's twin brother now.
So maybe we do grow up to marry our Fathers.
2007-01-15 07:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by lifesweetcandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My lover and I would see eachother every weekend/every few weekends at the bar just by chances (we hung out at the same bar and club) and chat. I suppose we were friends or at least aquaintances. He came to my apartment once before we started uhm, well we didn't date. I was on antidepressants and sort of in a manic state and his story was just as destructive. We slept together for a few weeks and then he moved in. Niether of us were looking for love (clearly as you can see from the story) and even when he moved in it was meant to be temporary. It just happened to work out well. Alas, some people are just good for eachother.
2007-01-15 00:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
When I met my husband, I thought I would NEVER be able to be more than just friends... (OK maybe friends...) I used him at first to have somebody hang out with when my "cool friends" were busy or off to their summer homes etc. We started hanging out once or twice a week at first; it took me nearly 4 months to let him hold my hand... 1 year later we were married. I had the best marriage -- we had such an amazing relationship... Unfortunately, all good things must come to end... he passed away 2 years ago. In my opinion true love does exist and it is better to grow on you then go into it blindly... your judgments are better. Good luck!
2007-01-15 00:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We were into eachother on the night we met in 1995. We got married in 1999. Still together and very happy.
2007-01-15 01:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My lady and I were high school sweethearts who got married the day after graduation 45 years ago. I loved her from the moment I first laid eyes on her, and every day for the last 45 years I'vr loved her just a little bit more.
2007-01-15 00:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in love at 1st sight within hours anyway, It took him quite a while 2 trust me but I grew on him i know .... Yey it was real & real unexpected too!!We were great friends I trusted him & he trusted me too. Im so sad now...hes gone.
2007-01-15 00:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were friends first, but I liked him alot and he liked me too. It was love from the begining, but we were both too shy to tell eachother.
2007-01-15 02:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes, Yes, he/she has got to be a friend first. Passion dies with time and there has got to be some , chemistry, commonality and natural affinity to make the marriage last.
2007-01-15 00:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends first. love develops. it's something that takes time. That's why relationships that don't start from friendship usually don't last because they think they're in love when they're really just infatuated with each other.
2007-01-15 00:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by *shy*earthangel* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋