2007-01-15 00:35:12 · 10 answers · asked by mekusa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
are you meaning your girl as in a daughter or a girlfriend... either way just tell the truth.. thats the hardest part
2007-01-15 00:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by crystal s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well! Mecusa.
I'm not aware of the story.
A.If you're now in a pre- arranged marriage organized by your Parents and still love this girlfriend then I'm sorry for both of you.
B.If however, this isn't the case. You just met someone you wanted to marry ,or was 2 timing her. You just couldn't tell your girlfriend before the the marriageThen I'm very sorry for her. and your partner.
C. If due to circumstances ,you felt forcrd to act due to getting your partner pregnant and you were trying to do the right thing. Then I'm sorry for both of you. Rushing into marriage is never a good idea, especially when a child is coming.
A. You are bought up in a culture that is very complicated and so much pressure placed upon you to act correctly and your Parents word is law. However in this case you could still have been able to tell your girlfriend about the pending marriage, via a letter a note given by you or a mutual friend for you.
B/C. There really is no excuse ,why you didn't break off with your girlfriend before getting involved with your now marriage partner.
There is no way your Girlfriend won't be hurt and humiliated by your actions, unless she has moved on already. She may even tell your Partner about the two of you as revenge. This news will hurt all 3 .You were very cowardly and dishonest in this matter ,even if it was unintentional. You can't say I didn't tell her because I didn't want to hurt her feelings.That's just a cop out big time. So you couldn't find the right words face to face. You should have respected her ,yourself and the relationship she thought you both had and the one you have now with your Partner,to atleast send her a sweet caring note or letter. Never text or e-mail this kind of news. My guess if she's smart she'll realize how inept in relationships you are and go out and celebrate her luck. Your Marriage partner isn't so lucky. I do hope for them atleast you get a back bone and some councelling to make this marriage the best you can. You owe your partner that much.
Good Luck to aaAll concerned
2007-01-15 01:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't, so suck it up and just tell her.
I had an old boyfriend call me up to see how I was doing and tell me he had just bought a house and wanted me to bring my kids and move in with him. I had to tell him sorry, but I am getting married in two weeks.
Who are you more worried about hurting, your ex girl-friend or your current wife. Current wife should be priority!
2007-01-15 00:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by goddessatanea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wasn't your girl standing beside you when you got married.
2007-01-15 00:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really cared about her feelings, you wouldn't have involved yourself with another woman while you were married.
2007-01-15 00:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Militant Agnostic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Cannot.. If you had done that before she became your girl no problem no hurt...But you decieved her and lied now she will be hurt
2007-01-15 00:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean your daughter or your girlfriend?
If it's your daughter then you should simply explain it to her honestly.
If it's your girlfriend then I don't think your marriage stands much chance.
2007-01-15 00:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Diarmid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant. but you have to tell her anyway.
2007-01-15 00:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by setter505 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her while handing her a gun !!!
2007-01-15 00:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by marita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. good luck with that.
2007-01-15 00:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kodoku Josei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋