2007-01-15 00:23:21 · 17 answers · asked by CHANDU P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your choices are:
1. Talk to your wife about why.
2. Get counseling with your wife about communication.
3. Stray.
4. Get a divorce and find someone who does want to have sex with you.
5. Cold showers.
2007-01-15 00:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) You need to talk with her about this, but it's very tricky. Avoid saying anything that might make her feel threatened. It may take several attempts before you successfully convey your message, but don't give up until you do. She needs to understand that it's more than just a need to (pardon me) get your rocks off. 2) In trying to initiate intimacy, vary your approach. What seems erotic or romantic to you might be a turn-off to her. You need to find the right approach before you'll invoke her interest or participation, and the wrong approach will shut her down, especially when she's not particularly in a romantic mood.
3) This one is perhaps the best advice: You and she (for the sake of saving your marriage) may want to meet with a counselor or doctor. Hormones can make dramatic changes in a woman. There may be medications or therapies which can be subscribed or undertaken to help, and a doctor is a great place to start. Plus, there is a certain bond in working together to resolve a mutual problem.
2007-01-15 00:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by HelpfulHanna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean and it's beyond frustrating. My husband is going through some major financial and legal problems (possibly jail time) and refuses to have sex while this is going on. Last time we had sex was Dec 24 and 25, 2006 He is the type that everything around him has to be perfect in order to have a pleasing sex life. I am surprised I'm 5 months pregnant! Anyways, I have tried it all: greeting him naked at the door when he comes home from work, stripping, helping him monetarily, being extra nice, etc.......... to no success. I am thinking of getting some Viagra or Cialis online and putting it in his food to see what happens.
2007-01-15 01:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not as superficial as it appears.
Wife not willing to have sex with can have a no, of reasons.
You have to look for these.
First of all communicate, talk to her, ask her why she is unwilling. There can be a no. of reasons for this.
I dont know how long u have been married, is she a virgin? Or is she not too old to be interested in it. U have to figure out all this.
If shes a virgin, initiate into it by being patient, understanding, being romanti, foreplay , whatever it takes.
If she is postmenopausal, maybe she needs some therapy, take her to a doctor.
Maybe its u whos not doing things right.
Talk to her and take it from there on.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 00:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with the wife about it, and see why it is she's not interested in sex. Maybe she feels unloved or unappriciated.
Women like to to be shown that they are loved, not just told. Also women love affirmation, tell her what you appriciate about her. Example, I tell my wife all the time I appriciate how she takes care of the kids and the cooking and cleaning she does, also I just make her feel loved and appriciated.
Also, don't be in sugh a hurry, I think people, guys especially think that because they are horny, that their wife/gf should just give it up, and don't consider their wife/gf's feelings.
2007-01-15 00:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to seduce your wife maybe like when yall where dating or first married. do nice things for her(run bubblebath,rub lotion on her,or even wash dishes or clothes for her). Do yall have small kids?if so she may be tired ,help her a little to give her a break from the kids or whatever.
Good Luck!
2007-01-15 00:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Georgia Peach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously there is a problem is she doesnt want to. you need to sit her down and have a talk with her and listen to her. listen to each other, get to the source of the problem and then you will find a solution. in the meantime dont cheat on her. whatever you do dont cheat on her. if you feel the need to stray be a man and just divorce her first. however i dont feel thats what you want, so like i said just talk with her, communication is CRUCIAL in any relationship. good luck
2007-01-15 00:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by private n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your wife and ask her why she doesn't want to have sex. Then change what is bothering her.
2007-01-15 00:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be romantic! dont give up! make the night about her and if she still refuses keep trying! remember why you got married and remember the all the things you used to do to show your love. oh and talk, they like just to talk.
2007-01-15 00:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by ROB99281 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be important to see a marriage counselor together. It's also important to find out the problem--fear, anger, etc., and work on that problem.
2007-01-15 00:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Faith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋