I am dating a really fun guy, but I am concerned that he is an alcholic. He has been sober a few times, but he normally does not go a day without a drink.
2007-01-15 00:23:09 · 3 answers · asked by Susan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe...but maybe its the fact that he has recently turned the legal age and is overindulging on that.. that wears off and does not affect some people after a while.
Now if he is haviing the one a day and taking it in moderation he could be considered as a very casual drinker.
If he is drinking too much on a daily basis confront him and tell him your worried and that life is better that just drink..
I know how it is myself to be honest and things have changed.
As long as you promise to stand by him and offer support things should get better...
good luck
2007-01-15 00:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by bannierocks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your question yourself. For the simple fact you recogonize the signs....wanting to drink almost everyday.
He may have some even deeper issues; becareful. I know alot of drunks actually dated on/part of the reason we called it quits. I'm tell u when I first met him he had me in stitches all the time (he was so fun/I had no intentions hooking up w/him...but it felt good to be liked & he seemed very honest, everyone enjoyed his company.)
A few months down the line things change; I was w/him so much-we kind of became a couple. And, I had a talk w/him; I know longer like seeing him drunk-cause he would do stupid stuff (he was always considered to be a joke anyway to everybody) & I wanted to help better his life & get him more respect. because everybody was surprise; that I would mess w/him when they had such high hopes for me.
Long story short by me interferring w/his drinking he became agigatated saying "he only has one mother", I'm like I'm trying to help better u &.......Later I just seen the real nasty side of him calling me names, being very abusive, being very hurtful....Now this is someone who had a crush on me for years, and I finally let him in.
One thing I can say he stayed consistent he still made everybody else laugh and kept them on the top of his list. Would exactly change our plans to appease other and disrespect me to get a laugh.
I'm no longer laughing or having fun. He has two faces one that he shows to the public (where people can hardly believe we're talking about the same people). they think he's harmless but he's nasty and at one time I thought he didnt realize how he was treating; so I tried to show & tell him things that he's done. And, he doesn't care.....he'll hurt my feelings before he'll hurt theirs (those r his drinking buddies).
I say all this to u; to say this be careful. In fact stay away....this is a good time to have that discussion about his drinking. A lot of people that do drugs or drink; have a hard time controlling (I didn't even mention stopping). I shared this story w/u because my heart is trying to heal from recently breaking up w/this person. I'm trying to gain my indepence again, I'm trying to rebuild my self-esteem because it has taken a serious beating.
2007-01-15 00:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Spotlight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a recovering alcoholic for 18 years. there are few signs were you can see. i caught 2 of them. 1 is you think he is woman instinct never wrong. 2. when he drinks he cannot stop, that is a ping drinker, it does not matter if he goes a day without a drink. go to Alon on meeting you will find out..and bring home some pr-ochers and put them around the house may be he will catch on
2007-01-15 00:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Dove4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋