My sex life with my husband sucks.he wont do foreplay ,he wants me to initiate all the time and when we do the wild monkey dance its in the dark,Im sick of it .He has no problem looking at porn without me!But when i wanna try something new he always says his back hurts him.he is insecure about the way he looks but let me tell you Im not no j-lo myself either.
2007-01-15 00:09:38 · 14 answers · asked by bethany3045 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's important that you tell him what's bothering you and how you would like things to be different. If you have this discussion and you're angry, which you clearly are -- even if it's justifiable, then he will have a hard time hearing you and making changes. If you want to stay in this marriage, it might be helpful for you to find a competent therapist through a recommendation, preferably someone trained in sex therapy. The longer things go, the harder they are to change. Most couples don't get to therapy until many resentments have built up.
2007-01-15 00:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by joanmazza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys get so involved with porn they lose the connection with the real thing. It doesn't matter what each of you look like. You did say husband! So you did at some point talk to each other? Try that again and ask him to lose the porn. Some people are always uncomfortable in the light. Try a shaded candle. Or some form of indirect, low light. When is the last time you took a candle light bath with lots of bubbles and wine and perfume TOGETHER? You have to find a way to get the "together" back. Or maybe it was never there?
Take care, Al.
2007-01-15 00:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Alain C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow Hon, that really sucks!
OK, so have you tried talking to him? Telling him how you feel? Why not try get him to go to couples therapy. It can be a big help. Otherwise, try getting some "How to" videos and playing them while he's at home, so you can watch them together? Or watch the Porn with him! If this doesn't work, then give him an ultimatum - shape up or ship out pal!! Have you considered that he may be doing the "Wild monkey dance" (cute!) with someone else, that's why he's not interested in you?! Maybe get a makeover to wake him up! You will feel great for it too. There is NOTHING that compares to GOOD sex! I love it! In the day, at night, on the couch, wherever!!!! You are missing out on far too much of life if you have a selfish partner like that!
2007-01-15 00:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmmm! Wild Monkey Dance hey (lol) sorry Ive never heard it called that before!!! Sounds like a terrible situation, I honestly think Id be getting sick of that one & perhaps suggest to him if he doesnt start getting his act together, that you will get a lover.....
2007-01-18 23:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and let him know how you feel about the situation. Unless you let him know, the problem will never be addressed.
2007-01-15 01:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by Reggie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear ,
in bed room all the games and forplay is for the fun , and you shuld enjoy it to increase your sexual pleasure ,
the marriage is based on sex and you both are responsible to complete the hunger and to feed the sexual diesere of you both ,
donot shy and enjoy the sex and forplay
2007-01-15 00:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by austinmefine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not getting enough of what you want. There's a support group for people like us... SWAGE
2007-01-15 01:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have any answers for you, but hell if you find out what to do please let me know, I have the same problem and i am considering other options.
2007-01-15 01:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by hotty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if he can't do the job i can. let him see this. and see what happens. wild monkey dance. cool i like that
2007-01-15 00:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Cut him off until he is willing to try romance your way, and tell him that it is either porn, or me....
2007-01-15 00:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋