My son won't poo on the toilet!?

Question

My son is 5 yrs old ond won't poo on the toilet (soon to be 6yrs old).
I have tried god knows what to get him to use the toilet, he wee's on the toilet and is dry at night but won't do a poo on the loo!
I'm really at my whits end as i know he isn't stupid.
Can anyone offer any advice PLEASE?

He poo's in his pants. He knows when he is doing it as he crouches down to do it but refuses to go to the toilet.

Answer 1

It's his way or the highway!!!
He knows what he wants, he is very stubborn...it may seem like a problem to you but I think he has got personality and will go far in life!

Answer 2

My daughter who is now 3 1/2 has had this issue. It has to do with a couple of things: 1) embarrassed, 2) The loss of control of feeling they have to go until it is there (happens once they start to hold it), and 3) they feel like they are loosing part of themselves (this is what starts all of the problems). She is over it now, just. This is what our paediatrician said to do: Start by giving him a fibre substitute in a drink every day. Put him on a toilet within 20 min. of eating of anything and leave him on for a few minutes. This is when the body naturally starts to push things through. When he just sits give him praise and encourage him. If he actually does something, give him a sticker, small toy or book, ect. But not food as the children at this age need to see the reward (food just disappears). Mainly, please don't make this a big deal as it is hard for them to cope and already know they aren't doing things right. Oh, my friend's daughter also had a similar problem and had to wear a nappy to poo on the toilet. She gradually made holes until she was finally able to take it off.

Answer 3

Offer rewards for going poo on the toilet...but don't pressure him. As a boy he's already got it in his DNA that he doesn't like failure. So, if you pound it in his head that this is the right way to do it, and he doesn't follow through, he definitely doesn't want to try again. Be creative...put targets in the toilet and tell him to try and poo on them...works with the pee pee thing too. Have you asked him WHY he won't poo on the toilet? Reassure him that whatever the issue is, isn't true. It's natural to poo, and poo belongs in the toilet. My best advice would be to just get CREATIVE...

Answer 4

Your son either has a phobia or a control issue. Talk to him about if there is anything that scares him... poo-ing can be a very scary thing. And if he ever did poo in the potty, and it was one of those sharp or hard poos, it may have hurt him, and he may not want to poo in the pot for fear of pain.

If it's a control issue, it may be because he knows it bothers you- that you want him to poo on the potty, so he refuses. If he doesn't admit to a phobia, then stop fretting, and don't react to him messing himself , and when he sees that it no longer gets under your skin, he will stop




just a side note... when i worked in the potty training room at a daycare, i had a four year old who wouldnt potty train. come to find out, his older brother told him that if he went in the potty, then a snake would come up and bite him in the butt. I had mom label a spray bottle with a label she made on the computer that said, 'snake be gone', and fill it with purple or green koolaid. "sean" got to spray the snake spray in the potty before he used it, and he was potty trained in a week.

Answer 5

My son exchange into comparable interior the certainty that he "feared" his poop. some issues that worked for us: a bathroom that he exchange into excited approximately (aim, walmart), small prizes while he went poo on the potty(alongside with a music and dance) and many endurance in cleansing up messes. he gets it faster or later. considering he's having no issue peeing, thats a million/2 the conflict!(i don't propose pullups, they are confusingly equivalent to diapers) And one huge element: if he fears pooing at abode, pooing on the bypass is a nightmare. convey the potty you got and carry it interior the returned of your motor vehicle, so its customary.

Answer 6

It's a sad fact but bribary often works. Try buying a few cheap pocket money toys. Keep them in a see through jar in a place where he can't reach them. tell him he is allowed to choose a toy from the jar every time he uses the toilet for a poo.

Answer 7

he's possibly gaining some positives out of this. is he getting lots of attention from not going?
perhaps just tell him you forgot to buy nappies (i'm assuming that's what he uses) and see what he chooses to do.
other than that, just ignore the whole issue for a while, praise his abilities in other areas, and he just might start to want that attention regarding the pooing again, and decide he'll get the attention if he uses the toilet.

Answer 8

Is it that he doesn't like the flush? Try to get him to explain why he doesn't like it and really listen to him. Don't judge him. If its the flush them teach him to put the lid down then flush.
Try explaining that we all use the loo for hygeine, it stops us getting ill from the germs in poo. Make sure he sees you and his Dad use it without any big deal being made out of it.
And I agree with a points and reward scheme if he starts to tackle this one, make a point of telling him that we all have things we don't like but we have to do (like going to work or cleaning!) and let him know oyu're pleased and proud of him.

Answer 9

make a little chart up for him, tell him that if he does have a poo on the loo he'll get a little star on his chart, and at the end of the week if he has enough stars you'll treat him to a new toy. This worked on me when i was a child and kept peeing the bed!

Answer 10

he is 5/6 years old an he still goes in his pants. This is disturbing. He should have been potty trained by 2.5. So you are telling me you send him to school, and you know he is rebellious and doesnt use the restroom correctly.Therefore submitting teachers , students and facuilty to his behaviour.If you cannot make him use the facilities correctly, then take him to a child therapist. or read www.drphil.com he maybe able to shed some light on your problem.

Answer 11

sounds like he's got a phobia of going to the toilet, where does he go for a poo then?try and reward him with something he would really like that might work.