When I was younger I sincerely believed in Jesus and his word, but I've never been consistent in being disciplined to read the word everyday, like I'd be hot for a minute, but that zeal never lasted, also, I've allowed for strongholds to be built in my life with things like fetishes, and pornography, and have been driven by lust and my own gratifications for a long time. I've done some things that I have a hard time forgiving myself for, and I believe that Jesus's blood cleanses me if I'm truly repentent, but like I said the zeal and sincerity to walk in righteousness does happen sometimes but it doesn't seem to last, and honestly I go through the motions sometimes asking for forgiveness knowing I'll do it again. I am fully aware that I've made bad decisions that have put me in a place in my life that I hate. I throw my own pity parties which don't help, and often feel angry, hopeless and frustrated, suicidal, then think others have worse, then it repeats. So real believers, advice?
2007-01-14 22:56:45 · 13 answers · asked by dondee23msn 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I've talked to my dad about this and he explained that God doesn't do magic, and I have to be resoponsible enough to start taking steps toward getting my life together, and I've heard about how God knew me before the womb and his thoughts are good towards me, but when I try to pick myself up out of this rut, I keep falling in it, and when I try to think about my future it's frustrating because I feel like I should already be in it, but I'm not because I've made mistakes, and had opportunities but I, didn't capitalize on them, and when I think about trying to move on it's hard because it looks like I'll never be happy, yeah I'll be alive but.....it's like I feel it's too late for me, like it would take too long to try and get to where I really want, I'm already 22 and I'm still at home, and man....I don't really feel good....that's probably the best I've ever explained it because usually I get so frustrated I can't even really speak without lashing out in anger.
2007-01-14 23:10:36 · update #1
Maybe you are not truly born again? A lot of people go to church, read the Bible, pray, but have never been born again. If you know in your heart that you are truly born again, then let's look at some things that will help you.
Our Spirit is a lot like our fleshly body, if you don't feed it, it will die. Reading the Holy Bible is feeding your Spirit, a healthy Spirit is feed daily.
Prayer is the most important part of a good walk with God, again we need to pray daily, not just once or twice, but throughout the whole day.
Go to a church that teaches Jesus Christ is the only way to God.
Make strong Christian friends, and hang out with them. Old friends will pull you down.
Stop reading anything that isn't clean and wholesome. Stop watching anything on TV or movies that isn't clean and wholesome. Stop using cuss words and don't partake in bad jokes. NO more porn!!!!
Romans 13:11-14 And that, knowing the time, that it is high time to awake out of sleep: for now is our salvation nearer than when we believed. The night is far spent, the day is at hand: let us therefore cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armour of light. Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkeness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying. But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lust thereof.
If you fall, get right back up, confess you have sinned and go forward. Pray that Jesus Christ will help you with knowing how to love him.
This life is very short, one day it will all be over. You need to make up your mind to serve Jesus Christ with all your heart, soul, body, and mind.
Be a leader, not a follower, show others how to live for God.
I hope you the best, and I will pray for you to grow strong.
2007-01-14 23:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have formed bad habits,your story sounds a lot like mine but the age is different,I am 54 now but when I was 20 I took an overdose of pills,of course that didn't kill me because I told someone about it right after I took the pills ,pity parties I know about well.Then at 32 I cried out to God that I would kill myself if he didn't do something with my life well he did and I had to learn how a lot of my cursed life was due to the fact that I had bad habits.
Now if you are serious do this,it takes 3 weeks to break a habit and 3 weeks to form another habit,so you need to be found doing something for someone else every day.It might be a small something or a big something the point is that in giving you receive and you won't be having your mind on you,that is how the poor little me spirit keeps us.I promise you will bring out a smile on other people faces and in return you will see you feel better.Jesus said if you don't love your brother whom you have seen how can you love God whom you have not seen.Try it you will like it.
2007-01-15 00:40:23 · answer #2 · answered by jackiedj8952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of us have gone through similar experiences when you fell like all hope is lost and you are really worthless. You have to learn to let go of everything and quit trying so much. Its no about you or what good you try to do. Its about Him. What He can do for you. You need a real old fashioned altar conference with God and just lay all your heart out to him. For a start you can read a chapter a day before you pray. Pray each day in the morning and evening and whenever you can. Remember the devil is determined to see you down and not rise up again but all you have to do is keep holding on to the cross. Hold on to Jesus. Even the word says " Pro 24:16 For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: "
Ask God to come into your heart and He will lead your life from victory unto victory.
2007-01-14 23:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gre2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, stop trying to do this under your own power. You will fail every time. It truly takes the indwelling HS to empower you to resist. Secondly, you base waaaaay too much of your spiritual walk on feelings. Just because you feel a certain way doesn't change that Christ died for you and you have apparently accepted that. You are human, you are going to struggle until you die. We all have a "tree in the garden". A thing we cannot seem to shake unless God acts on our behalf. Pornography is your tree. You are not to even go near it. If you do, you'll "eat of the fruit" yet again.
How can you let God live in you daily? I find that I slip and fall when I get out of the habit of spending a little time each morning with God, talking with him in prayer and listening to him through reading the Bible. That's how we stay true to friends and love ones - we spend time with them. The more time we spend with them the less we will desire to do anything that will hurt them. Don't neglet spending time with God, stay away from pornography, and allow God to work in and through you.
2007-01-14 23:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound human.
Honestly, I find the ONLY way for me to stay on the straight and narrow is to SURROUND (and I mean SURROUND) myself with people who will hold me accountable.
I go to church every week (if I dont, things go bad) and I may even attend a mid-week meeting if I feel myself drifting into worldly stuff...
If we were already perfect, there would be no need for Jesus and his sacrifice.
You need to not be so harsh on yourself. To me, you sound a lot like David - the Psalm writer. God called him a 'man after my own heart'. Meaning, he loved his honesty. David hid no emotion from God. Anger, lust, despair and depression, ambition, joy, he shared it all with God. And God loved it.
Please dont make the mistake of thinking you have to be 'perfect' and all prayed up before you can come before God. He wants you just as you are.
And I tell you what - people are crying out for your kind of honesty. They want to hear from people who are 'real'. Not these fake, almost plasticy perfect people who pretend everything is perfect! Life is a struggle, and I think you have some stuff that, if shared, could have an impact on peoples lives! People WANT to hear truth.
All the best - Deborah
2007-01-14 23:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If God brings you to it, God will bring you through it. I have had one of those rough times before where nothing went right and it seemed that even my own parents didn't want me around. When you feel like that, God is trying to tell you that He is the only one you need and the only one you will have left. You can be forgiven for porn and fetishes. God is just merciful like that. Trouble doesn't last always. Your peace will come soon.
2007-01-14 23:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by peach49444 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept and love yourself. God loves you just as you are and you cannot change yourself. Leave that to God. You will never be "good enough" so just accept God's forgiveness, do the best you can, but it is God who will change your heart--you could pray that he will change you and then just quit trying to be perfect. Jesus changes lives--we cannot do it ourselves. So put more faith in him and his righteousness and less in your own. God bless you.
2007-01-14 23:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want get connected to God, stop making pieces of God. Ideally a human being can connect to one single God.
2007-01-14 23:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(James4:8) Draw close to God and he will draw close to you, call on God's mercy and help to get close to him and really make youtr mind over to follow him in the right way and you will succeed I managed to in this way, remember to call on him to help you resist wrongdoing and keep free from it remember you are imperfect but you can succeed with God's help, and that God will help you if he sees you are sincere and you really want to change to do his will, that first of all ientails learning what God's will is, only then can you do it if you know what it is, so you need to take in accurate knowledge(John17:3)
2007-01-14 23:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by I speak Truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get back to God by willing it.
If you are separated from God, it is because you are unwilling to make the sacrifices that are necessary to connect to Him.
God does not make it too difficult for us to reach Him.
If we cannot, it is simply because we are unwilling.
Are you willing enough to do what it takes to connect with God again?
If you are, God will give you all the means to connect with Him.
He is totally faithful on His end.
It is up to you to decide what you will do.
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2007-01-14 23:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋