A friend of mine is in love with a woman, a work colleague who holds diametrically opposed political opinions. She is a tory councillor and he is a dedicated socialist.
Trouble is, as far as I know he does not know her political views and as they live 50 miles apart and she is a councillor for her local district council, he is unlikely to find out accidentally. But... should I tell him? I'm worried it may be too devastating for him.
I found out by doing a quick search online as I'm nosey.
2007-01-14 22:29:12 · 18 answers · asked by Pema 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh sorry, perhaps I should have explained that he's my partner....
So it's difficult to just butt out as it was put.
2007-01-14 23:27:13 · update #1
Let them get on with it, he'll find out soon enough when he's picketing outside her offices.
2007-01-14 22:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances, is the women purposely keeping this information from your friend or have they just met? If the latter is the case then you should let their relationship run it's course and leave them to discover each other. It sounds like you may have a conflicting interest and if that's the case maybe you should examine why you are so concerned? As for opposing political views I don't think this is an issue as I happen to be a Democrat and my husband a Republican and we love that we can challenge each other intellectually.
2007-01-15 06:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's any of your business and it's not your place to tell things like this. Leave them alone. They are adults and I'm sure they are smart enough to have a conversation about their beliefs and opinions at some point. Let them get to know each other in their own time and make their own decision about the relationship. It is possible that they can live with their differences and come to respect each others individual opinions. Let them decide.
2007-01-15 06:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its politics, people from different religions manage to get on and do well in relationships and politics could be the same way, it would be different if he was sinn fein (sp) and she was a tory counciller as thats a bit of a pusdh I say you shouldn't but into their relationship let them find out for themselves and find your own relationship.
2007-01-15 06:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Natashya K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, doc, my wife and I were on opposite sides of the political tracks and we were married until she passed on. I've an aunt and uncle who've been married 50 yrs and they have opposite political affiliations. They get along fine, too. Shesh, you'd have thought one was catholic and one was protestant the way you phrased that. I think they'll be fine. Just leave them alone and things will work out as they will and God deems fit.
2007-01-15 06:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is another classic example that you need to mind your own business and Shut Up!!!! Stay out of other people's lives and stop trying to save mankind!!! You seem to need to work on yourself, pal, and try to get some control in your own life. Again, zip the lip and mind your own business.......who are you to decide what is right or wrong for someone else??? Geeeesh!!!
2007-01-15 06:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship develops he is certain to find out her views eventually. Then HE (not you) can decide how important it is.
For a funny take on this see the old film 'Left, Right and Centre'
2007-01-15 06:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't intervene if I were you. Just let it be, if he's supposed to know, he will find out. If the relationship is unconditional, then this won't matter in the long hall. Just remember, don't put yourself int he middle.
2007-01-15 06:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Teknicl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably shouldn't tell him, i think you might find it a little difficult to explain exactly why you were researching his prospective girlfriend online...
i'm sure he'll find out in due course... and hey, at least they'll have things to talk about! sometimes opposites totally attract.. good luck to them.
2007-01-15 07:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by muppet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell! Opposites can attract - after all, many couples have differences of opinions over many different things
2007-01-15 06:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋