My sister is a counsellor in hospital and earns around $50,000 a year. She has the hots for a doctor who earns around $100,000 a year. My sister, me and my friends have been discussing this. Most of us earn $40,000-$60,000 and we are all dating/married to men who earn around the same with the exception of 1 friend who earns almost $10,000 less than her husband. My sister has asked us for advice & we have all said- go for it! She is not a gold digger, and at 26 years of age she has done well for herself- own car, house, 1 holiday home....The doctor she likes is 30 years old & drives a car & owns a home way more expensive than hers. He does like her- it is obious. But she feels a bit intimidated by his money. Do you think telling her to go for it was wise advice? Do you consider someones earnings when deciding wether to date them or not? and How much does it really matter? & lastly To pre-nup or Not to pre-nup? What is your answer? All you need is love......right????
2007-01-14 22:23:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whoa...us nosey, gold diggers?, I am just asking a question and have said she IS NOT a gold digger, he DOES like her, and she WANTED our advice... can you people read?? Aggresive... Remember what I said ...All you need is love! peace:]
2007-01-14 22:36:07 · update #1
Yes she does own her own holiday home- we live in Australia... It is possible here.
2007-01-14 22:43:26 · update #2
Material things like money are NOT the important things in life - I think you guys gave her the right advice. The key to happiness is in our relationships with people and money shouldn't be a factor in whether you fall in love. If it is meant to be for your sister and the Doctor, they will work this out. If they are in Love, neither of them will be calculating their salaries as a prediction of the relationship working. She should just follow her heart and go for it! Whether to pre-nup or not will involve finding out what he and she want and feel about it.
Good Luck!
2007-01-14 22:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by milljanni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Money is a tough issue. Men are always supposed to be the breadwinners, but my now ex-fiance made close to 200k a year, and there i was pulling in a whopping 30k a year. It never really bothered either of us, as you said, love is all that matters. Sometimes i had an issue, but i loved her. We broke up for other reasons, but money should not be that big of an issue. And always pre-nup, it just makes sense, no matter if you make 12k a year or 1mil a year.
2007-01-15 06:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about the difference in pay, then you should question whether or not you love the person (regardless if they make more or less).
I also think that you are making up the fact that your sister has a holiday home. She MIGHT have a timeshare. Is this even a real question? Regardless of prenuptial agreement, the female will come out good if she made less money.
2007-01-15 06:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by EATTHEAPPLE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sure sounds like a "gold digger" to me, sweetie. She also sounds materialistic and shallow. Let's hope this doctor stays clear of her since it seems like he has not even given her the tie of day yet she is thinking pre-nup. Looks like she is the one who needs the counseling.
2007-01-15 06:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should she be intimidated? There are more important things than a flashy car and a big house. She obviously has something more special to offer this guy that cannot be bought. She should consider herself priceless!
2007-01-15 06:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by surani_ud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few months ago, there was a guy on here that was a dishwasher at McDonald's, and he was in love with a woman doctor at the hospital. So, there's always HIM !
2007-01-15 06:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend earns half as much as I do. He doesn't have a problem with it and neither do I.
She should go for it. It's not like he's a millionaire or anything, he's just doing well for himself. A prenup probably wouldn't even be necessary.
2007-01-15 19:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Livian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is not a gold digger this should have even been brougt up. you sound like a gold digger to me. who are you trying to convince?
2007-01-15 06:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her to go for it.....you guys should all butt out and let her live her own life....you are getting way ahead of yourselves....it doesn't matter...what does matter is if they like then grow to love each other...that's it....
2007-01-15 06:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, all you need is love! More people should have this outlook.
2007-01-15 06:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by Cricket Monroe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋