I had recently came back to Melbourne from Hong Kong. And ever since that, I have been experiencing a feeling, which I think is loneliness. I used to be enthusiastic towards my life; I used to like spending time alone. But now, I do not feel like doing anything and I feel miserable when I am by myself.
Is this feeling loneliness? And how can I return to my old self? Please help! Thanks!
2007-01-14 22:14:07 · 10 answers · asked by timidgirl 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Lonliness is something we do to ourselves, to quote Merle Shane.
If you have traveled any amont then its normal that you should get a feeling of being adrift. The fact that you have moved from one major city to another is probably affecting you as well. Nothing much changed at home and you didnt get to see half of what you wanted in Hong kong right? None of us do.
Maybe its time to start sharing your experiences with others. Not everyone gets to Hong Kong.
I lived alone for six years and had a ball. Ski, climb, boats, you name it. Woke up one day and thought 'Actually this sucks'. I guess it hits us as being all a bit pointless sometimes.
If we get lucky then we find the things that make us happy quite easily. Othertimes we have to make an effort and find out what we need. We leave home, then return and expect it to have the same effect on us. It wont always happen Im afraid.
Get yoursef an activity that requires little effort (not tv). Pick up a book and read for example. Its a neutral activity that gets rid of that feeling of having wasted a couple of hours. Its not 'extreme sports' I know but you will start to learn to enjoy things again.
2007-01-14 23:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is something that may be cured by the thought of helping or being with others, someone you love. If you love the atmosphere of Hong Kong, perhaps you should visit again sometimes. It's very beautiful and picturesque, I must admit, and it's also very nice to live there.
Don't be alone all the time - go out and do something with others. For you, having company may be of a benefit.
2007-01-14 22:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive always felt loneliness is just the feeling of being alone, to put it in layman's terms. If you don't feel like doing ANYTHING it may be more than loneliness. That's usually solved by interaction with people but not having the urge to do anything is a little more severe than that. Concentrating on the good parts of life, finding little moments of joy all over help. You can condition yourself to be positive again by focusing on the positive and eliminating the negative. The more you do the more used to it you be and eventually your not sad or lonely anymore.
2007-01-14 22:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by doug_distel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like you've simply expanded your understanding of the world and life to such a degree that you are no longer satisfied by time alone: you've seen something that you want to be part of, which exceeds your former understanding.
Lonliness is a profound sensation of being shunned by all others. It can be overcome either by realizing that some other people accept you or by deluding yourself that all others accept you.
How to recapture a zest for life is a topic that could fill several books. You may find it helpful to involve yourself in a project or organization that aims to improve one or more specific areas of the human condition or environment, etc.
2007-01-14 22:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like lonliness. It sounds like classic depression. You need to do some deep introspection to find where you have lost your path. I would strongly recomend that you see a psychologist as they can be very helpful in assisting you in this process. The problem with depression is that it's self-replecating. What I mean is you need to get out there and do active stuff to feel better and you need to be engaging with yourself and other people to figure out what's wrong. Unfortunately when you're depressed this is that last thing you want to do... all you want to do is stay in bed and feel sorry for yourself.
Be gentle with yourself, but do get some help!
Know that many others have been where you are and worse and have come back to feeling their old, motivated selves again. Good luck!
2007-01-14 22:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be "loneliness" as you said, try getting a pet, or find your self a good friend to party/hang out with, or even a boyfriend/girl friend. But (I am not a expert by no means) it could be signs of depression. You could ask your doctor.
2007-01-14 22:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are lacking some friends or interest. go meet some people. depending on your age maybe its just your biology telling you its time to mingle. Also you may have suffered some sort of trauma it sounds like for some reason.
2007-01-14 22:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you miss hong kong or you had an experience there you sound depressed not lonley
2007-01-14 22:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have friends, maybe it's really loneliness. try evaluating your self, (cause your the only one who really knows your self well),.
2007-01-14 22:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by fireolraven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is an experience you likely feel after ejaculation in socks no??? i think i vote this question "MORE INFO NEEDED"!!! ;)
2007-01-14 22:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋