I'm a 29yr old woman he is a 33yr old man... and I've tried talking to him letting him know how it makes me feel... the fact that apparently I'm good enuff to touch him but not good enuff for him to touch... and sex is a rare thing in our house... we do good to find play time... Sorry if this is too Explicit for you... but I really don't know who I can turn to for this... my best friend is his cousin, and my other best friend well she is dating his cousin... so I'm turning to total strangers for help... if you have ANY advice PLEASE PLEASE I'm begging you to help me... thank you... Sexless in Tulare, CA
2007-01-14 21:54:20 · 12 answers · asked by Bride to Be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a 29yr old woman with a 33yr old boyfriend, we live together. How can I make him realize that he isn't the only one that needs to be played with, sexually? He makes me feel as though I'm good enough to play with him but not good enough to be played with.. how do I make him realize this??? I love him very much.. he is the love of my life my soul mate.. and it didn't used to be like this... but for about the last 4 months or so he has become greedy in bed.. if you have ANY advice on what I can do or try... PLEASE PLEASE I'm begging you to help me... thank you... Sexless in Tulare
2007-01-14 22:24:30 · update #1
well i don't know much about this but it does sound like he is being greedy and i say stop pleasing him until he starts pleasing you. it should be equal in a relationship not one way
2007-01-14 23:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by iluvfishing25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he may have performance anxiety. There was a time in our marriage that my husband would not come to bed until he knew I was asleep. It is difficult to communicate about these things, and in our case we both had the completely wrong idea about what was going on. There are a lot of good books available. 'Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus' is great to read together. My husband doesn't like to read, but I discovered that he loves to listen to me read. I could talk for hours and end up in tears trying to get him to understand something, but read a paragraph out of the book and he gets it, just like that. That book turned our marriage around. Also www.drphil.com may have some ideas. Don't give up. Best wishes.
2007-01-14 22:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Sit Down And Talk. Explain To Him Properly How You Feel. Try To Do A Bit More Fore-Playing.
2007-01-14 22:01:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid honey that there ain`t much you can do about it. He seems to have a low sex drive and also selfish. Perhaps its time to look at the relationship and see if this is what you really want. Every girl deserves to have a guy who pleasures them totally that`s part of loving.
2007-01-14 22:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if you tell him and it still doesn't change things, then I suspect he doesn't care all that much.....he just discards or ignores your feelings and he doesn't care to make you feel good sexually.....why would you want to stay in a relationship like that? He is a taker not a giver......kick him to the curb and find someone that will love you, make love to you, respect your feelings, and treat you as you deserve and want to be treated...good luck
2007-01-14 22:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with Mel-K on this one.....
What exactly isn't going on that you'd like to?
Is your BF just being greedy and not getting you off?
Please explain.
2007-01-14 22:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kathy
2007-01-14 22:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch!! tell him to put out or get out, try different things sexy outfits, lotions, nice warm bath together, or just turn your back to him and let him know hes not getting any until you do.
2007-01-14 22:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
urm ..instead of simply asking him for it ...try exciting him for it so it can make him want it ? like thru exrotic dancing , role playing , body language n stuff like that ? ...gd luck
2007-01-14 22:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question isn't very clear... You say you touch him, but he doesn't touch you? Doesn't make sense, then you said you do good to find playtime... HUH????
2007-01-14 21:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by Y.a.S.L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋