What if your boyfriend told you that he loves you but is not in love with you, he doesnt want to marry you and he doesnt want to have children with you BUT he wants to be with you and try but cant promise. I want to try but cant stop thinking that he is not in love..... its really difficult for me!
2007-01-14 21:49:50 · 17 answers · asked by Lilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
loving somone is showing deep care for them, you would do anything for them, now being IN love is a lot deeper than loving someone. its like you would die for them...you want to spend the rest of your life with them and you cant stop thinking about them and you want to die in their arms. i think what your bf said is sweet because it shows that he really means what he said because most guys now-a-days just throw that word around like a toy. it shows that he really cares. i would love to have a guy like you. i would take it as a compliment. you should be lucky! i hope this helps!!
ambi
2007-01-14 21:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the end of your relationship has arrived, but your partner is a kind and gentle man who does not want to your feelings...
Try spending some time apart for a while - I know this will be difficult for both of you and could be hard if you are living together or similar, but it is the right thing to do. He needs to make his decision on where to go and what to do next. He is clearly unhappy with the current arrangement, so perhaps take a step back in your relationship and see what happens. He may now see you as just a friend rather than girlfriend - thus explaining the love but not in-love feelings he has for you.
Ask him what he really wants, and talk things through. Keep in mind if he has told you he doesn't want to marry you, he probably isn't looking at any kind of long-term future together. You may need to be the strong one in this situation and say that what he's offering isn't enough, and that it's time to go your own ways from here on.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 05:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lose him, I did. probably the best thing I did. We dated for four years. One day I asked him whether he saw me in his future and he said he just wanted us to be bf & gf. I didn't want promises or indeed an instant answer but he was not as committed as I was so I got rid of the excess.
Two months later and the children he could not see for the next 2-3 years he was expecting, the easy respectful life he wanted for himself (he had with me) he lost, he stayed with and married the mother of his children despite the strong objection of his parents (and they were difficult to offend) and ever since the wife has never made any major commitment to him plus they argue like cat and dog.
He has regrets. I can say I still love him (not in love though) and even if he was totally single and not gf, wife or children, I would not take him back.
So I guess the moral of the story is. He does not love you enough and you should stop wasting your time. If he did he would make it clear.
2007-01-15 06:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by The Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really sorry, it must be awful for you. The only advice I can give is go with your gut feeling, unfortunately you cant make someone love you and if its starting to go wrong now it probably will not last long if the feelings are already fading. Sometimes men dont realise what they have until its gone. I fell out of love with someone and we split up. I believe in fate and whatever is meant to happen will. Dont worry, if your meant to be together everything will work out but if your not it will be good in the long run because you will find someone that feels the same about you .
2007-01-15 06:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by honeybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you. This is one of the oldest lines in the book.
He doesn't want to marry you and he doesn't want children with you? He gets points for being upfront and honest.
So, you're in a relationship where he is biding his time until something better comes along? How does that make you feel?
There are men who will want to marry you and have children with you. Enough said. Good luck.
2007-01-15 07:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not in love with you and doesnt want kids with you and you want kids then it aint going to work between you two you need to get out of the relationship and find someone who wants the same things as you do
2007-01-15 09:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry ! But if he is not " In love " with you then your wasting your time with him. Your best bet would be to move on and find someone who will love you and want to marry you. He's just a waste of space !!
2007-01-18 20:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him . what he is telling you shows that he loves u like a friend or someone that cares for u as a person but not the special one . to be in a relationship means that someone loves you and is in love with you , there is a big difference
2007-01-15 06:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him some time out. Give him some time. Tell him to go away on a holiday etc but that you don't want to see him until he knows how he feels. Absense makes the heart grow fonder and it might make him realise how much he cares for you
2007-01-18 09:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by traceylill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meaning he DON'T LOVE u!!! Dump him now, he ain't worth to be with...go get someone who loves u for who u are. In another words, he love u like a lil sis or a good friend and that's it. There is no such thing as love u but not in love with u...he is manipulating his words to keep u as spare...RUN!!!
2007-01-15 05:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋