Asking her out... does she like me? hmm?

Question

I have liked this girl for a number of months now. She seems to take time out to come and talk to me and constantly laughs at my jokes whilst spending that extra bit of time in our conversation. I suppose it's a fear factor that stops me asking her out due to the fear of rejection. How do I get a better idea of what she thinks of me? And is there a no-lose way of asking her out, or getting an indication of her intended answer should I ask?

Answer 1

If she is as nice as she seems, even if she isn't interested in you in that way, it won't be a problem if you ask her out. There are a lot of positive signs, so I'd say just ignore that fear and go for it, hard as it might be x

Answer 2

You might want to change your handle. A "Casanova" (or the real man himself) wouldn't have these questions or fears. I'm just sayin'.
You sound a bit young so here's some advice on becoming a man: There is no "no-lose" way of asking a woman out and only young kids "find out" what girls think about them through others. Asking women out is going to have something like a 90% rate of failure. So what? You just move on to the next one.
You HAVE to just ask her out. Go to a movie or something simple like that. Nothing big. She'll get the message if you ask her on a date and her response will let you know what's going on. Remember, if you don't ask, the answer is ALWAYS NO.
Sounds like she might like you, by the way. If you wait too long to ask her, she'll move on and you'll get left behind. ASK HER OUT THE NEXT TIME THAT YOU SEE HER, NO LATER.
The clock is ticking. You have no more time to waste. Start to act like a man, you'll be happy that you did.

Answer 3

One thing is absolutely certain and that is if you don't ask then you will never know. You don't need to think about long term, think short term, just a drink, it ain't an engagement don't get ahead of the game. If she is involved with someone then at least you know where you stand. Just remember, reach for the stars but keep your feet on the ground, be natural, just act like you are asking any mate if they want to go for a pint, the only stress is the stress you put on yourself. Go for it.

Answer 4

I think kou should just bite the bullet and ask her, if you dont you will be kicking yourself because you never did and it could have been the start of something good. You could ask as a casual thing, like "I'm going for a drink after work do you fancy coming?" and see where it goes from there. The worse that can happen is she says no. Life's too short to have regrets !

Answer 5

The best way to know about her intentions is to go to her and ask her out. Do it very smooth. Always know what you want when you ask a girl out. wether you want a relationship or not. knowing what to do gives you more self confidence and less stress. Be relax about it. My point of view is that she likes you but thats that. The rest of it is totallt up to you.

Answer 6

She likes you. Just ask her! Ask her if she'd like to go for a coffee, if no, then you can just change the subject, if she goes with you discuss films, ask if she'd like to see so & so sometime, say tonight... But I think she'll say 'Yes', unless there's a reason, like a boyfriend already.

If you don't ask her she'll get the message that you're not interested.

Answer 7

Don't ask her out, next time you're talking to her and she's laughing at your jokes, tell her you want to take her out.

Instead of asking something like, "Do you fancy coming out with me sometime?" tell her something like, "I'd love to take you out sometime, how about bowling (or whatever) this weekend?"

YOU want to take HER out, so tell her that.

Good luck!

Answer 8

just ask her. there's no no-lose way. you either ask her or don't. look on the bright side if she feels the same way she'll say yes.