Why is it I cant find a guy who wants a relationship? Guys seem to see me as a mere plaything. Its annoying. Every guy i meet and know wants to have sex with me but i cant find one who wants more then that. Ive made it clear to everyone that im looking for a relationship and i dont want any f.w.b. but they still keep trying. Why dont guys see me as girlfriend material?
2007-01-14 21:25:14 · 15 answers · asked by i_dont_get_it 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see the thing is i have changed my image. i moved to where i know live a year ago from a dif. state and when i did i cleaned up my image because i was tired of attracting the wrong guys. I changed the way i dress and the way i present myself but im still only finding guys who want sex. Ive thought that mayve its the fact that im young. I mean I dont want to get married or anything like that. I just want a steady boyfriend.
2007-01-14 21:42:07 · update #1
I hate to be the one to tell you but even nice guys will try to get in your pants. That's just the way we are. I am a good - nice guy but if i am dating a girl i am going to try her because i want to see what she is made of. I want to see what her moral value is. You want to make me stay around? tell me no and mean it. Tell me that you are waiting for the man that will hold you close to his heart and not just bang you and go. Show me what kind of woman you are. That will make me want to stay around because you are showing me something different than what i have seen. If you come across a guy that this doesn't make him want to stay then let him go. He's the wrong one 4 u. 1 other thing' Know how to treat a man. If you don't' learn it. That is 1 of the things that is wrong with American women. They have forgotten how to make a man want to be with them. Women in the USA have forgotten how to put there man first and every thing else behind him. That is why there are so many going overseas because women over there are like women over here used to be.
2007-01-16 07:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's caused by the way you portray yourself, try to portray yourself in a different light. Make sure that guys know you're not just looking for sex. Let them know that there's no way you'll get into that type situation. If the guy can't accept that, move on. If the guy has a genuine intrest in you, he'll stick around. Better than that, if the guy is a true gentleman, he won't be just looking to have sex with you. He'll be looking for more. Just remember that true gentlemen will not just look for sex, but will be looking for a genuine friendship or for a relationship. Only "boys" chase after sex like a pack of wild dogs.
2007-01-14 21:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to find a guy wanting a relationship, the best place to look would be the International airport where you live.
Thousands of American men leave the States every year looking for female companions. Around 400,000 annually. Eastern Europe, East Asia and South America are all popular destinations.
Most of these guys are educated and have good jobs. I'm one of them. I came to Thailand looking for a wife, ended up getting a very good job and decided to stay. I was 32 when I came over.
I don't believe for a minute you can't find a decent guy, you simply don't want one, just like many other American women. And then you want to claim victim status.
How many nice guys have you given a fake phone # to, then took your panties off for some sorry loser?
I dated American women for 16 years. Been there, done that.
2007-01-14 21:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, throughout most of your life you'll meet guys who only want sex from you. That's part of being a woman.
Take a look at yourself: How do you dress? Dressing a certain way sends certain messages to guys. If you dress in tight clothes, show a lot of skin, etc., then guys will think that you only want sex and you'll attract the jerks. Take a good look at your wardrobe and consider making changes, even significant ones.
How do you act around guys? Some women think that guys want women who are stupid, flirty and submissive. That tells some guys that you're out for sex only. Act like yourself, even if you think men won't like it.
Do you make lots of physical contact with guys you meet? Men interpret physical contact from women as a sexual signal (because usually it is). Watch your behavior around men; your non-verbal behavior, touching them, etc.
I'm not totally blaming you. You maybe very attractive, which isn't your fault. If you are very attractive but you dress with class and taste; act like yourself, not flirty and stupid; and reserve your physical contact with men to those who you do like then you will still have jerks approach you. There's nothing that you can do about this except just reject them.
Don't worry, there are good men out there who don't want just sex from you. You may have to do some of the work yourself and find them and even take the initiative. Some good men are shy and won't go after really attractive women. If those women themselves approach the shy men, the men usually are very happy about it.
2007-01-14 21:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like that are losers. you've got to find new friends. l had that problem for many year and l'm a guy. Girl only wanted sex from me l always new l was worth more than just a play thing. l got away from all those loser friends l took control of mylife with out having to be in a relationship.l just take care of myself and believe in myself and if the right person comes along then l'll try to keep a relationship that works out.But l'm not so insecure the l need to allow people to use my body for sex.
2007-01-14 21:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you wanted advice from guys but what worked for me is wait on the sex thing. If you usually have sex with a new guy within a week or two, wait a few months. It is the ONLY way you are going to know that they are going to be true to you and have a meaningful relationship. If they want sex that bad and you are not willing to give it up so easy, if they stay and are understanding, then he is the one for you. I did that and I later married him.
2007-01-14 21:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to give more descriptions about urself, otherwise i can't really answer that. There are guys who just wanna have sex, those thinking with their weiner...and some who really wanna have a relationship...maybe u have not met the right one yet but don't give up ur body to those who just wants sex...u might regret it later on...be patient and someone good will be at ur door step. There are guys out there waiting for a girl like u too...so all the best! :)
2007-01-14 21:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is just because you are looking at the wrong kind of guys, or your approach on them is wrong because sometimes the way a woman approaches a man or her attitude makes a man think that sex is what she is looking for. Also, where are you meeting these guys? Clubs and bars are where guys look for women to just fool around with. Try handling yourself a little differently with your dating and let them know early that you want to start a relationship, but not too early.....good luck.
2007-01-14 21:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by viper161003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 be patient thats all. tha right guy will come along sooner or later. everywun finds their tru soul mate (if they want it.) wait 4 tha right guy 2 come along or go out searching, maybe introducing urself 2 them or sumthing along those lines...or if they approach u then study wut they say 2 u tha first time...if they be like "yo baby u lookin hot or damn baby girl u lookin fiiiine" then thats not ur type of guy...maybe tha guy that comes up 2 u saying "hey miss how r u doin 2day? my name is blah...i jus wanted 2 say that u caught my eye n i wanted 2 get 2 no ur personality n u." maybe a guy like that would be a good wun 2 try n get 2 no. or maybe a friend of urs that u knew 4 a long time that has a good heart n wutever ur looking 4 wud be a good choice 2 get a little closer 2..but its ur choice...
2007-01-14 21:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by We disagree, yet, hold hands. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to keep on looking.
Most guys want to check it out first before they get committed.
Or it might be your attitude of "Every guy i meet and know wants to have sex with me"--so if that's not true you appear full of yourself. And if I knew that every guy you meet wants to go curve riding with you they won't get committed to you because they're afraid you'll dump them for a hunky stud.
2007-01-14 21:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋