It is my partners daughter and she has now left moved out from her mum to live with her dad as she does not get on with her sister mainly oer MSN and not being able to share
2007-01-14 21:00:02 · 19 answers · asked by Michelle H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MSN is a big problem with kids,write or wrong I monitor there conversations and on occation print them out to show them (this is a tick box in options).This,in turn limits the use of MSN becuse the novilty factor of secrecy has gone,the urge to use it goes as well.
2007-01-14 21:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers do need their support props and MSN is a popular choice. It allows them sociability without the scary 'real' interaction. However, learning to share is a fundamental part of family life and deeply necessary for a person to learn. There should always be a limit timewise which has been decided before hand with all the children. Say and hour or two each for one night. If they don't stick to the limit they get banned for two nights etc etc. Thats what we do and it works fine. Everyone knows the limits and although they moan a bit when their time is up, they do it to prevent a ban. Its always a useful lever to get them to do stuff. I ask for things to be done and trade half hours for chores over and above the normal daily ones. Your step-daughter is being a bit naughty and knew it would cause a storm to go to her dad - a punishment for not letting her do what she wants. Let her stew. If she wants to come back, don't say 'yes' straight away - say you will think about it. They can't be allowed to play everyone off against each other and rule the roost!
2007-01-18 17:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only talking to her friends and saving money on phone calls, I agree its not healthy though, she needs to get some fresh air and get out and learn people skills in the real world. You didnt say her age but id guess a teenager, has she a b/f on msn that she talks to? people can make you feel good on internet when you dont feel good about yourself. Get her out more, shopping, cinema, day trips etc. She will get bored of it if she is getting fun and attention elsewhere. Sounds like life at mums wasnt much fun if her sister lives on msn as well. Be patient with her.
2007-01-15 05:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its definately not healthy to be on MSN all the time. It is highly addictive and has caused many problems with oue family. My little sister didn't do anything for a while apart from chat to her mates. It cause a lot of fights between her and her friends and the scholl she goes to sent a letter home asking us to ban it. Definately needs to be limited, but not just MSN. This MySpace craze is getting out of hand to and BeeBo
2007-01-15 05:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by angellover6056 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are computer literate. So you can understand
how easy it is to log on and get a bit carried away with time
can,t you? I know I do. I hear what your saying though and
when you say she won,t 'share' is that just the computer?
You all need to sit down together and talk. Communication
is the main thing. All the family need to know how each of
you feel. Plan time. Agree on a time limit to be on the computer.
If this is the main reason for it splitting the family up. PULL THE
PLUG.
2007-01-15 05:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!
sounds slitely obsessive
im a teen and am on msn tons. especially during the hols
maybe involve her more by doin family stuff and just chilling out with the whole family go out play games visit museums and generally take her mind off things
maybe she feels that she needsto be on msn becoz thats wen she can talk to particular ppl and stuff :s
I dont know wat u meant BY ALL THE TIME!! surely she eats and stuff?
assert urself and have times that she is allowed on the net or else lock the comp! thats the only way she will learn ie password protect it!
family much more imp than msn
try to remind her about that
also sometimes its ok to let her learn by her own mistakes
shw that ur fine without her.,, otherwise get some1 u knw to talk to her or talk2 her urself make her understand! :)
2007-01-15 05:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by YabbaJabba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MSN is a great communication tool - I'm on it loads (I'm 22 and in uni) to chat to all my friends - sometimes five at once! I hate to think what my phone bill would be like otherwise!
If it's causing friction, I suggest that you either restrict their hours on the internet, or just buy a second computer and get wireless broadband so they can both use it at once.
2007-01-15 06:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she were my daughter I'm not quite sure if it would be unhealthy or not .But I guarantee you that it would definitely be uncomfortable for her that's for sure. She wouldn't be able to sit down for a week after I got through tanning her azz for her. She wouldn't be able to argue with her sister if there was nothing left to argue over now would she? Where's the parent, you know the one who's supposed to be in charge? Sounds to me like the situation is in need of some serious adult supervision and guidance.
2007-01-15 05:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Justa_Honay_Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our family there is a one hour daily time limit to computer use during the school year. I'm more lenient during the summer though.
2007-01-15 05:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not healthy.
It may split the family apart.
Best if she go outside for some days where there is no electronic media.
JUst some nice people along with nice natural beauty.
2007-01-15 05:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by koRngear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋