been together for 5 years and he hasn't cheated on me but he has done things that have made me really mad - such as coming home at 2am without letting me no (we live together). and a few other things but i always bring this stuff back up instead of letting it go - i think about it and let it wind me up - how can i stop this
2007-01-14 20:35:52 · 13 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know its kind of weird but if you really want this feeling to go away you need to do something which can make it even. People say when you really love someone you should not let small things bother you that will effect the relationship. People even say if you love someone you should forgive. O
ver times I am also like you, I couldnt let these things go away, instead Ive learned to make him make up for watever things that I am not comfortable with.
Like for example, if he comes home late, i make him take me for movies to make up for it. But u have to let him know that u are doing that to make him make up for yesterday dont use the word "punish" instead say "make up". Do things that you both would enjoy.
Certain things that guy's cant avoid such they dont really bother abt small things it is not because they dont love you but its just them. They have got their own ways.
I hope u can learn to tolerate this, and firgure out a way to make up to things that you cant let go coz eventually through one way or another you have to. Experiment with a few and see which one helps. I hope my way was a little bit helpful.
good luck.
2007-01-14 20:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should really check out Michael Fiore's video on how to get your ex back in a matter of days through text messages. It's crazy but it works, I never believed I could get back with my ex wife in this life time but it did happened. I cheated on her a lot of times and still we are back together (won't do it again), unbelievable what some psychology can do.
Anyway, watch the video here: http://www.textyourexback.link - it will blow your mind. Good luck!
2014-08-11 09:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to accept that when you live with somone there are always gonna be things that drive u batty whether its squezing the toothpaste tube from the wrong end or staying out on the lash til god knows when.... The important things are that the same rules apply for you and your man doesn't flip his lid if you turn up in the middle of the night plastered. And you have to feel comfortable with everything that's going on, and tell him if all it would take is a txt to say when he'll be back, that'll make you feel secure.
2007-01-15 04:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by bex b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what you gain. If bringing up the old stuff serves no purpose, then don't do it. I applaud you for seeing the pattern and trying to break it. I do this too.
A wise man once said, "To speak without thinking is to shoot without aiming." I try to think a second when I see a fight starting. Ask myself if I really want to fight over whatever it is. Usually I don't.
2007-01-15 04:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem,unfortunately you just have to ride it out,he will grow out of it. Your only hurting yourself dwelling on things,your on a slippery path heading for anxiety and depression,believe me i know. My husband has grown out of it now, but i am 10 years younger than him and plan on getting my own back when the kids are older.
2007-01-15 05:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by heebygeeby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u date him for 5 years without proposing the marriage? or you don't want to get married yet. think it twice.
sometimes, when a relationship reachs to stable and boring stage, men try to hang out with their friends. but it depends on how he treats you!
monkey see, monkey do. jsut hang out wiht yout women's friends house till2am (the night club close) then back on next morning. see how he reacts! you will find yoru answer soon. my ex never comes back home late, because he knows i will do the same.
2007-01-15 04:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just have a deep and meaningful talk and let it all out. write it down maybe so you dont miss stuff out and get it all off your chest
if you let it go it will build and you will feel like rubbish and may become distant and then it will get bad
2007-01-15 05:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by itshellhot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
doesn't sound like the ideal relationship to me..... think you should make a decision if you want to live like this, i sure wouldn't
2007-01-15 04:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself...do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?
2007-01-15 05:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try talking to him about it since it's bothering you so much.
2007-01-15 04:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by Miami.Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋