I've never approached a girl before in my life.....?

Question

I'm 19, and I've never approached a girl in my life. I'm talking about approaching a random girl (who I would be a stranger to), and starting a conversation, and getting her phone number and going out later on.
I guess that explains why I'm a virgin, but then again some other people never approach girls and they still seem to be able to get laid.

If I were thinking about approaching a girl in a non-bar/club environment, these are the thoughts that would enter my head:
"why would she talk to me if she doesn't even know me?"
"this is too out of the ordinary, it will be awkward"
"people will see me approach her"
"shes going to tell all of her friends 'some creep tried to approach me today' "

I realize these negative thought patterns are of zero help, but how do I change my mindset?

Answer 1

Don't worry, after the 10th rejection or so it doesn't hurt any more.

Answer 2

Just go up to a girl and start chatting or something! Girls obviously love you, and when they say you are cute, that means they like you, and are looking for a relationship! That was your first clue! And girls love a guy who has a good sense of humor. Couldn't look at your picture though, sorry. But Just go up to a girl and say hey, and start a conversation from there. Pick a topic that will last long, so you can think of another topic when you are done with the old one. I hope everything works out hun! You seem sweet lol.

Answer 3

Man this is something you got to get used to. 1 out of 3 girls will dig your style. All you have to do it be honest with yourself and know the type of girl is in your range. I mean if your a 5 you dont want to aim for a 9 or 10 cuz your going to get rejected in a minute. Keep it around 6 or 7 at most. You'll see it works.

Answer 4

Man don't worry so much. You will be rejected sometimes, it happens to us all. I would suggest working on your communication skills first. Talk to a few people around work etc. Then when you are confident go up to a girl. It kind of helps when she is alone, but rare from my experience. Just be confident. Try asking her some harmless questions to get to know her. If you feel a good convo later get her number. This might take a while for a rookie. You just have to do some trial and error ****. Good luck man.

Answer 5

I always asked myself "what is the worst that can happen"?
She is not going to stab you, call the cops, or even announce to the world that you are still a virgin ( but you might get maced). Seriously, there is very little downside compared to the possibility of enjoying the companionship of a wonderful girl (contrary to popular belief they really do exist, just in relatively small numbers ) and you might even get lucky.
Remember this
-always try this when you have time and money to ride out the situation (you don't want your second sentence to be about her digits.
-ask about her... check out where she has been shopping and comment ( unless it's Victoria's Secret, that might be a little intimate, even if titillating),is she drinking a Capp' or coffee, etc.
-keep the opening line general and genuine and non-threatening
-confidence is sexy (so is a pocket full of money)
good luck

Answer 6

Most people wouldn't just do that. If you see a girl that u like, go up to her and ask her name. If she freaks out just tell her that u just wanted to get to know a stranger, not a big deal. I would be weirded out but would eventually begin to talk. Just don't stalk her and don't flatter her too much. Say you like her hair or her name and that u wish u could be with someone as great as her. She may love your comments or hate them. Always depends on the girl.

Answer 7

Why overanalyze the subject? If you see someone you like at the super market, bring your cart next to hers and make a comment about the toothpaste she's buying, or tell her you love that blouse of hers. If there is any chemistry, it will show up soon. And try again and again. Till the right one comes along. What do you have to loose? Hopefully your virginity I suppose, but you want to lose that anyhow.

Answer 8

Look the best remedy for u'll be is to get urself a gf she'll help u get laid and u wont need random approach from strangers

Answer 9

i think this depends on how you grew up. around family and people from school. Maby it just nervs or physical apperance lol to be honest im not quite sure. work with what ya got i suppose.

Answer 10

you should ask a girl out. if you date for a long while, you can reach your final goal -to get laid. personally, you just have to come to girl and says something nice and compliment to her, then you can ask her phone number. she will give it to u, if u are interested. if not, try another one.