I'm 28, a lesbian, in a great relationship, have a morgage, blah blah blah, and really wanting to have a baby, not really sure what my options are or how?
2007-01-14 19:40:33 · 14 answers · asked by Kiwi grl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You can be artificially inseminated (or IVF) from donor sperm from a sperm bank or a male friend who is willing. Speak with your OB/GYN about your options and reputable clinics in your area. You will need a physical and rounds of fertility drugs to start the process.
Depending on your state you may also be able to adopt- which is much less expensive and would give an already existing child a great home. Good luck whatever you choose!
2007-01-14 19:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by medicpaige 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wrong on SO MANY levels. First of all you are planning on being the parent of your brother's son. Normally he would just be an uncle, but he is the father in this case. What if he decides he wants custody some day? After all, this child will be HIS, not yours. He will ALWAYS have more rights to the child than you. And, according to statistics, you and your partner will not last. That means the child becomes the real victim and trying to a raise a child that is technically his and the girl with whom you will eventually break up with just makes things even more complicated. It doesn't really sound like you thought things through beforehand, which is why you are asking this question now. I suspect that this question will only prompt more questions in your head and make matters worse. I feel bad for the child.
2016-05-24 04:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman you can do this a number of ways... the more conventional route (if you're willing to sleep with men), a sperm bank, or adoption. I think it would be great if you were yo adopt a child who no one else wants... there are so many out there because everyoine wants the little newbprn babies. It's sad. If I ever adopted I would choose a 1-3 year old, personally. They also tend to be easier to adopt.
2007-01-15 07:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This cartoonist:
http://liliane.comicgenesis.com/
has some good books (and a lot of stuff on-line), and I inadvertently learned quite a bit about trying to conceive using donated sperm by reading them.
Caveat: she did not end up conceiving, but it's well-written and charming and would still make for an entertaining read for anybody considering going that route.
If you have any male friends who'd be willing, I'd say D-I-Y with their sperm (no, no; I don't mean go sleep with them -- I mean just D-I-Y for the insertion; going to a doctor for it looks unnecessarily expensive and time-consuming) would be the best way.
2007-01-15 03:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be artificially inseminated - which costs lots of money - but you'd get to pick out the physical characteristics of the donor. However, you should know that in many states, the sperm donors now have the right to find out who/where their children are, and they can become part of their lives, legally.
You can also do IVF, where someone you know donates the sperm.
You can also pretend to be straight for a day and get laid.
2007-01-14 19:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
One option is to find a male friend who is willing to supply the sperm. Another would be artificial insemination. The best way was a couple of friends of mine, she is a lesbian, he is a gay man. The both wanted children, so they had sex and have produced three children...now adults. They didn't marry one another, they had other life partners and their life parnters understood and together ALL of them raised the children in a loving supportive environment, the oldest one is in a branch of the Government in DC. The middle one is a specialist in pediatric cancers, works at St Jude's. The youngest is in the current cast of the musical "Notre-Dame de Paris" in France, and not one of them "turned out" gay.
2007-01-14 19:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
The question here is why do you want to have a baby?
What will hapen when your baby begins to seek for the opposite sex role model/
The question is not IF, but WHEN he or she begins to look for the opposite sex role model?
Yes, you can raise this child without a male role model, but why would you want to bring a child into this world knowing that he/she will not have the luxury of a father role model and a mother role model?
If your answer is , your not concerned about this, then the answer to Why do you want to have a child would be for strictly selfish reasons.
I'm not trying to put you down, don't get me wrong.What I'm trying to do is prepare you for what's coming ahead, in the future, for you and your child, especially in the adolescent years.
You're going to put this child through a very difficult struggle.
If I were to take a guess, I would say that you, yourself went through a similar struggle in your childhood, that is why you now have decided to remove a healthy male role model from your life.
Now your going to pass that pain on to an inocent child, for what reason?
Because you want a child, without the thoought of what will the child want.
Do the child a favor before it's born. Leave the child where it's at and live your life the way yoou have decided to live your life, without a healthy male role model, don't pass this inballance on to an inocent child.
If you have to, please do the research on children who are brought up without a father, I'm not going to tell you. This has become one of America's biggest problems in children, the reason is not a mystery.
If you decide to have a child, it simply is because of selfish reasons, not because you want to raise a healthy child.
You will have a very difficult time bringing up the child, in a healthy way, and the child will have a difficult life from beginning to all the way throughout life, especially their married life.
If you have chosen to live as a lesbian, then live out your dream, don't force it upon someone else who did not ask to be a part of that dream.
I hope I haven't been too straight to the point . Please foorgive me if I have.
Take care.
2007-01-14 20:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by JOHN S 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
That is not a normal life for a child
its even cruel to bring a child into the world knowing it wont have a Daddy & teaching it out of the norm way of life
it will suffer at school very badly
2007-01-14 21:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You can order sperm online now and have your OBGYN insert it for you at the right time. A girl at work did that and has a cute little girl.
2007-01-14 19:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My rabbi and her partner recently had twins. Very cute twins, I might add.
Talk to your OB/GYN. That's what the doctors are for. Also, make sure you and your girlfriend (wife?) are ready to have kids.
2007-01-14 19:45:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋