My girlfriend and I had a huge fight recently in which she said that she did not like me and still loved her ex. We were on the point of breakoff when I convinced her that it was a natural emotional reaction to still have feelings left behind. She also said that I moved too fast in the relationship and I told her I will pull back on it. We have had relationship for only two months but i really like her. I want her back completely. I need advice on how to act from now on. Please I am desperately waiting for your advice. . thank you
2007-01-14 19:35:55 · 8 answers · asked by predation2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give her more space.... communicate
2007-01-14 19:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by *Harley* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to still have emotions for an ex even thoughts especially if things arent going well in your new relationship. As long as you dont act on them and create a indiscretion you will regret later. Ex sex is no good! If your moving to fastlet her make the moves and stay a lil more reserved . Let her decide when she wants to move faster and if you dont recognize the signs ask? If she really believes she still has feelings that are nagging at her about her ex tell her to have lunch with him and talk to him to get some closure. Then when she comes back ask her how it went and how she ffeels? She may be ecstatic to be back in your arms, then again she may just of came back to pack her bags. either way an ex is an ex for a reason assuredly that same reason will rise again when the lusting is over and then she will definitly be back. if you love her as much as you say you do , then you need to decide wheteher you will prepared fot either of the decision she makes and/or to take her back when SHE makes a mistake!
2007-01-14 19:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by meagan w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, dont get too pushy and take things fast...go slow...be understanding....and most of all understand her needs...
She might just gotten out of a meaningful relationship and do not want to make the same mistakes and get hurt again. Therefore, she'll tend to be more careful with her emotions, feelings, the things she does as well as the decisions she makes.
Give her some space and time. See where things lead to after that. If she really loves you ...she'll appreciate every single thing you're doing for her.
2007-01-14 19:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just step back and follow her lead. I don't know exactly what type of guy you are but if you are the surprise-her-with-flowers-out-of-the-blue type stop for the moment. The only thing is don't act like you are rejecting her. Just take things down a few notches and relax.
2007-01-14 19:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Beeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself....don't act in any way that's not YOU!!! being YOU in a relationship is what it all boils down to. If she still has feelings for her ex, she should not be in a relationship, and should give herself time to heal completely. however, she could have said she has feelings for him out of anger, its very possible. i say stupid things out of anger so its possible. take it easy, it's only two months that you two have dated. go on dates, have fun, go bowling, go skiing, walk, talk, i mean don't act like you two have married. maybe that's why she is not responding to you.
2007-01-14 19:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
two months relationship is not enough to hold on the relaationship.... but u can try to save it by being kind and calm....
try to understand her and remain silent in small issues.....
please apologise her that u was wrong and make sure next time that u r not falling under the same situation like this....
u ll be alright....
2007-01-14 19:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by viv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
identity ask if i might desire to communicate to them on my own, without the female pal there. purely enable them to renowned the variety you experience, be honest and tell them you recognize their standpoint bc its their daughter, and can experience an analogous way. And which you probably did make a mistake breaking apart along with her, yet you patched issues up earlier the twist of destiny, yet after the telephone call it purely have been given truly tricky so you might even deliver it as much as them. they might desire to be understanding, if not, thats fairly crappy of them bc you probably did not something incorrect. sturdy success
2016-10-07 04:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But what if she still has feelings real feelings for her ex, you can't make her love you, sorry
2007-01-14 19:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋