the guy i like is super shy... ill spare you the details but we've been out and he thinks we are some exclusive couple now which is fine with me but he never even calls me! i cant stand it. i went out of town for a few weeks and he didnt call me once, and now that im back he will talk to me at school but still hasnt called me in forever. he doesnt even call to go out (hes really anti social so he basically just stays home all the time) let alone talk for a while. i dont want to call him up every time i want to do something. hes 16 and doesnt even know to call up his girlfriend, or else hes just too scared? what should i do/say to him to make him get it?
2007-01-14 19:34:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really wouldn;t worry about it. I know it may seem like you're putting in all the effort, but if he's shy he probably just need reassurance that you like him. I know, I did it when I was 16 and still do it now, to a certain degree and it bugs my boyfriend so much! But if you think that he's worth the effort, then don't let him go so easy. Just try talking to him about it tactfully, in a way which shows you care and try and act like its not a big deal! Like someones already said, he probably isn't too sure about what to do and he may not want to look like he's bugging you or keeping tabs on you all the time!
And if it doesnt work out in the end, there's plenty more fish in the sea!
Hope this helps
2007-01-14 19:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is an introvert. He confines with only those people who are close to him and no one else and you seem to be the lucky one. The only solution with them is to talk and talk and talk and make them comfortable before a group. Support him in any way whenever he is in the group so he feels confident. Once he opens up yo will have lovable relationship. BUT I am not sure and you have not mentioned how he reacts when you are with other guys. If he plays it cool, you can have good relationship as both of you have a good understanding and trust and in case he feels suspicious I think it is time to find another friend. Try finding it out yourself.
2007-01-15 03:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't get it. I'm betting this guy is afraid to call you because he doesn't really know how to act on the phone. If you really like him, Ease him into it. Ask him at school to call you later that night. Make it a point that it's important that HE calls YOU. Try not to be harsh about it. You may end up bringing him out of his shell and teach him how to act around people. He may be more fun to be around afterwards.
2007-01-15 03:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by LordKestrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this guy isn't ready to handle a girlfriend let alone a relationship. This is why I don't get with shy guys in the first place... I advise you to call HIM up instead. Maybe he'll get comfortable to call you up later after this goes on.
2007-01-15 03:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one hes 16 so he is probably not sure on how to have a relationship. you probably need to tell him what you expect out of your relationship. some guys just never come out of there shell or when they do its much later in life. the best thing you can do for him is help him work on his social skills and don't get mad at him all the time. hes probably really unsure with girls especially one he likes. if it ends up being too much it sounds like your a teen yourself, there are plenty of guys out there that would go out with someone that likes to hang out and do things. if hes not willing to change then i wouldn't worry about having a relationship with him and just be a friend.
2007-01-15 03:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by athena9980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him directly about the issue? Try it. Be plain, be blunt, and especially be honest. You can still be nice, too. If he isn't too damaged to respond, you could end up with a good relationship. If not, why do you want to keep a boyfriend who can't or won't call you or take the initiative to make a date with you?
2007-01-15 03:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's the shy type, maybe he's also attracted to you because you're more outgoing, talkative, etc (as the saying goes - opposites attract)... so just be yourself and dont try to change him. And then you can talk to him about it. He'll get over the shyness but dont expect it to happen overnight. You can help him work on his shyness by building his confidence through affirmation.
2007-01-15 03:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by arc* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the world be be a much better place if women accepted the fact that guys hate using phones. please don't hold that as a strike against him. did he tell you that he missed you when you got back to town? now if he didn't do that, i would give him 3 strikes off the bat and buy him a blow up doll or something. cause that's all he'll ever need in life
2007-01-15 05:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Monk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm if he's anti social then i think it would be better if you call him up everyday for a period of time then stop calling him and wonders why u dont call anymore and he'll be the one who'll call you
maybe he doesnt have a phone
maybe he's cheating on you
maybe he's gay and uses you as his "front"
tell him to call you then he'll call you
2007-01-15 03:40:24 · answer #9 · answered by Edjim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't flip out on him but get really aggressive as far as the relationship goes. He is still toying with rejection. The more aggressive you get on him the more confindent he will be knowing that you like him. Trust me. I used to be the same way.
2007-01-15 03:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by KAA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋