Is this veryyy bad?
I have just dated this guy for a week and we saw each other few times. This guy is so caring and nice. I had sex with him at the very first date and we had more after. We are actually dating and he seems interested in me not only for sex. However, I kinda regret it now cause I don't want a guy to misunderstand me or feel I'm his F***body & want to use me only. I just don't want to ruin a good relationship with a nice guy.
2007-01-14 19:31:46 · 24 answers · asked by ELK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't worry about this AT ALL. I know couples that are married now and slept with each other with in the first two hours of meeting....lol.
Just don't bring it up with him, and he will think you are a confident girl! If you try and "explain" your way out of it, he may start to think you are making excuses and that you are a slut. Chances are right now he doesn't even think anything of it. And probably just knows how much you like him.
If you feel things are going well for the two of you, then just give the relationship time to progress. IF in about 3 weeks, you get the feeling that he is JUST using you for SEX. (LIKE HE COMES OVER< YOU ****< AND HE LEAVES) THEN get UPSET! I doubt that will happen though, sounds like he likes you as more than a **** buddy to me.
2007-01-14 20:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by cuteness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. And the way you put it, that he is nice and all...I don't think he is worrying about it. What is done is done. If you feel bad, then just slow down on the sex and see what happens. From there you will also be able to tell more about him if he is really interested in you or the sex. I don't believe that relationships don't last if you had sex on the first date......sometimes things happens for a reason. Perhaps you guys had a strong chemistry together ...... I know some people who had sex on the first date and later got married and is still happily married with children!!
2007-01-15 03:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it prolly wasn't the best way to start something w/ this guy if you really like him, but it doesn't sound too bad. You say he's still caring and nice even after you had sex? Well he prolly wouldn't be so great if all he wanted was to sleep w/ you cause he already got there. It seems like he prolly is thinking the same thing you are. Don't worry so much, but if you really are concerned, the best and really the only option is to talk with him about it. Let him know you don't wanna be used.
2007-01-15 05:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by collective224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, it happens - so not very bad, not even necessarily bad...
Keep doing what you're doing. If you feel comfortable enough tell him how you feel, that you kind of regret it, and hope he likes you for you... not as a f**ck buddy.
But really, if you're happy with him, and he seems happy with you... and he's nice and caring towards you.... don't stress about it.
The past is the past - and you've got a good thing going from the sounds of it.
Peace,
-dh
2007-01-15 03:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not REALLY bad. You said that he seems more interested then sex so that is a good beginning. Maybe you should go on more dates with him and hold off on sex and see what he does. If he is ok with it then he really does want more if not, then he might just want a f budy.
2007-01-15 03:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by tastykumquat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have messed this up. See how long it last. I have one friend who actually married a guy she slept with on the first date. Try talking to the guy and tell him what's on your mind.
2007-01-15 03:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not very bad ...
but go easy on the sex ... dont get too involved too fast ..
wid sex you are giving him an indication that is not truly .. there are many other ways of expressing your fondness towards a guy ..
you show a man sex ... and all he would ever want from you is sex ... till you dont draw a line ..
2007-01-15 03:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by shukan i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of you are committed to each other and are not using each other for sex, it is not a bad thing.....if you have doubts, I suggest you ask him if he would think the way you feel. No harm trying....besides, you barely know him yet, both of you need time to know more about each other....
2007-01-15 03:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex on the first date never builds a good relationship.
2007-01-15 03:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex with him on the first date is where you messed up at. if he was into you for more than just sex, then what you did was show him that you were willing to give it up too easily, thus destroying his interest in you.
2007-01-15 03:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Oliver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋