I know in this posting that you point out both of you have mental illness problems .. do you both still go to therapy?
IF you both do (or just one does) .. have you asked your therapist(s) to work with both of you on the relationship - some couples counseling to help you both deal with the reality of each of you cheating at various points so far?
Sounds to me like this could be a possible solution to the difficulties you are currently facing.
Then .. as to the apartment (lease) .. if you are BOTH on the lease, and it is not up until June 2007, then if either one of you moves, you would still be responsible for the rental payment share that you normally will make UNTIL the lease is up. I would suggest (if at all possible) that you both sleep in separate bedrooms for the time being .. especially while undergoing couples counseling.
2007-01-14 19:41:12
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answered by sglmom 7
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You have mental health issues and you picked a partner with the same or similar problems? Not smart. There's no good direction to go from where you are. If you have a counselor or mentor, talk to her about options.
Hopefully this can serve as an object lesson to other dumb kids who think moving in together would be a good idea. There are important psychological reasons behind the marriage tradition.
2007-01-14 19:37:20
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answered by John D 3
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go there and do it in individual, in case you tell her over the phone not in effortless words will she digest the archives yet also ought to p.c.. up your inner most living house that are strewn throughout the time of the backyard in the front of your position. sit down her down and be a grown up and own as a lot as your ideas and decision you would want to make. like you stated interior the first paragraph, you're literally not in love consisting of her, you wrestle plenty and consider no intimate connection. i ought to assert end this relationship, so that you provide both a probability at love again. good success. desire this facilitates.
2016-11-23 19:13:40
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answered by pfeifer 4
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hmm,your scenario is filled with all sorts of emmotions.I would really like to advice you..the info for it is too limited.I have a feeling that things can work-out between you both if dealt properly.As you both know that you both have cheated on eachother...it makes it more easy to work out.Instead of making this cheating thing more of a serious business,try to discuss it more openly and let eachother know,how you were different and what makes you valuable.The only solution to this is to discuss openly all the details..and accepting it not as a sin...but media of knowing and comming close to eachother.I bet,with a bit of crazy sense of humour and passion along with a bit of jelousy...will spice-up your lovelife..and all the problems will diminish.
2007-01-14 20:04:01
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answered by Dream Seller 2
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you guys need a vacation just drop whatever you doing and take a break, relax, stress will only make it worst. Sit down and talk not arguing but talk and if it help give each other a break and some space hopefully it'll work out
2007-01-14 19:33:31
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answered by Hong T 1
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if you really love each other then u should really try to forget about the cheating thing
if he brings it up in the future tell him that he said that he already told you that it was ok that would make him stop bringing it up
in the case of your financial problem try moving to a cheaper apartment/condo/house or get a job that gives higher salary LOL
2007-01-14 19:32:52
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answered by Edjim 2
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my stepmum has bi-polar and i know how your emotions can be everywere...1 you should not have cheated on eachother.but thats the past.2 you really need to go and see a consultant and sort this out proper gd luck sweetie
2007-01-14 19:32:29
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answered by tootytoon 3
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Looks like you guys need to set some ground rules about fair play. YOu could just share the room and that's it. NO funny stuff.
2007-01-14 19:31:01
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answered by alwaysmoose 7
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if he wants to break up this is his business to move out. also, if u re both on the lease till june he has to pay his part whether he lives there or not. if he doesn't want to - take him to court. bastard. don't even think to move out. make him suffer
2007-01-14 19:31:26
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answered by jacky 6
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both of you are like the couple from hell...both cheating on each other. you don't have a relationship because you don't have common respect for each other. yea its better if you two just separated.
2007-01-14 19:34:14
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answered by Anonymous
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