I know this guy and we do get on but we also argue quite alot, I feel hes very cold towards me. I fancy him and he says he fancies me. When hes drunk however hes as nice and pie and really really flirty and attentive, im totally confused and want to know what the deal is? Ive tried asking him but he just bites my head off. ANyone been in the same situation and got an answer??
2007-01-14 19:09:18 · 29 answers · asked by anais_24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he needs alcohol in order to find you attractive
2007-01-14 19:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I worked behind a bar for a few years and I have a theory about people when they have had a few drinks, it goes like this:
After a few drinks (not when you are totally legless!) people are more relaxed and let down their guards, they are more their authentic selves as they have let down their public face.
This guy probably does fancy you a lot, but he has some issues to work through on showing his feelings when he is totally sober, he may also be embarrased by the way he acted when he was drinking.
He may be under preasure from his friends to act tough and macho and therefor can't tell you his feelings when he is sober, or he may be a complete prat who is just stringing you along.
2007-01-14 19:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow_Dancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are concerned shows you are a lot nicer than he is. Please give him a wide birth!!! All you will get from him is heartache. Sexual chemistry is good and gives you a buzz but always remember that you can't live in bed!!! The Jekyll and Hyde personality that he appears to have would grind you down and over a period of time you could lose self esteem and become depressed. No one is worth that. You deserve better. Look for someone who is kind and considerate. That is a really good start to a relationship. I did and we are now very happily married. He has turned my life around. Avoid anyone with too many hang ups. You can't change anyone.It took me years to realise that. Never wake up thinking that today might be the day he changes. BELIEVE ME.HE WON'T!!! Hope this helps. Please be kind to yourself and look elsewhere.
2007-01-21 20:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's drunk ??**!!++&*$)( Why don't you look for a decent sort of man who is not drunk? The deal is that he is a p*ss artist. Pull yourself up by your sandal straps and raise your sights a bit. You do not have to hang around with louts and chavs.
2007-01-22 02:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by David S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that ,moved on and found a great guy. The good news is that you can too.move it girl cause there are alot of fish in the sea and hey dont all have attitudes.
2007-01-14 19:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat19582002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just after a leg over when he is drunk and does not want to know when he is sober. He is only saying he fancies you when he is sober because he does not want to mess up his drunken fun ... sack him!
2007-01-22 03:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by www_theguv_01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather a man be as nice as pie to me when he's sober and not drunk.I would move on to someone who is nice to you all of the time.
2007-01-21 01:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him at once, as soon as he gets a few under his belt he sees you as a sex object, Do you realise you are in danger iof being honked on possibly at a vital moment?
2007-01-21 10:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i cant help you with this one- but if you guys argue a lot- you could be really meant for eachother (if you guys just forgive eachother) or you could be making a big mistake- maybe even one that you will never forget.
2007-01-14 19:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by witeandnerdie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. He is just scared of getting hurt and keeps you at arms length. Ask him what the score is directly.
2007-01-22 09:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I was..It took me 2 years to leave him.But I am happy I did..You dont need to be around someone like that..
2007-01-14 19:14:52 · answer #11 · answered by susieq j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋