how do i get over being shy?

Question

tell me plain and simple.

Answer 1

take a deep breath, get out, and meet people! They're more scared of you than you are of them. I was terribly shy as a child/teen. As an adult I grew into myself and became empowered. Now, I'm not shy--I'm so far from it, some call me brash. But I'd rather be brash than shy. It takes just one step, one hello to a stranger to help you overcome shyness....just take that one step! Smile, extend your hand! You can do it!

Answer 2

Honestly, I'm not positive shyness is something one can get over. I, too, am--by nature--very shy. What I had to do was choose when to realize that why I'll always be shy, this is no excuse not to share my opinion in a social or work situation or introduce myself at a gathering. If people were going to acknowledge me at all, I had to first let them know that I was there and in the room. How do you deal with being shy? Understand that shyness, while being part of your identity, cannot be your entire identity. If people only know you as the shy person because you never share your opinions or allow people to see your true self, then both the other people and you have lost out. Try little things: introduce yourself to just one person. Just say one little thing. Don't expect shyness to ever go away; just expect to get better and better at hiding it.

Answer 3

take a class that forces you to give speeches or talk in front of a group of people. I used to be so-o shy but in high school I joined theater and from there It still took a very little while but I became very open and secure and completely over my shyness.

So either find a class at your school like theater or speech class and try to get into them. There are also community classes in most towns that offer these types of classes for people of all ages. You don't even have to end up being a good actor or give good speeches. The point is that they force you to get up in front of class and talk. The best part is that everybody has to do it.

In my theatre class the very first assignmebt was to get up on stage and introduce myself and tell one thing about myself, then from there was more stuff like monologues, like reading shakespeare, then working in groups and that helped too because like I said, you're not alone, everyone has to do the same thing so theres no embarrasment.

I SWEAR YOUR SHYNESS WILL DISSIPATE

Answer 4

This might sound drastic, but consider talking to your doctor about going on Paxil. It helps A LOT with self-conciousness and shyness. It's definitely what helped me overcome my lifelong shyness. I've been on the med for six years and I no longer remember why I was shy. Don't get me wrong...you should also work on your self esteem and get some counseling, but the meds might help with the physical symptons of shyness (sweating, blushing, anxiety, etc.) and also a lot of mental ones enough to get the ball rolling. I'm not trying to promote medication, but as someone who's been there (I know how horrible shyness can be), I"m just telling you what helped me. I don't know how old you are or if you want to take meds (there are very few side effects), but it's worth talking to your doctor about. Also, if you do decide to take Paxil, remember that it usually takes up to two weeks to "kick in" so don't get discouraged in the meantime. Good luck.

Answer 5

Go somewhere, like a small party or a new dance class, where at most you know one person. You'll feel lame if you only talk to that one person, and in such settings, cerativity and originality are encouraged. You'll find yourself being a little kooky, which will make the people like you. It's impossible to be kooky and shy at the same time, meaning that you'll slowly learn to open up. Once you've gotten used to this, you'll find yourself being able to take more risks with and without people you know.

Answer 6

it is this simple , work on your self esteem, and i really mean work on your self esteem, cause that is proably why you are so darn shy, that was why i was. Is this simple enough!


By the way if you can get away without having to take meds that would be great, cause i notice that some have already told you to have a doctor give you something for it medication wise, that is not always the answer, and there is no magic pill or magic wand, so work with a therapist on your self esteem.

Answer 7

Don't worry to much about what people say or think about you. I too was very shy. For a long time. Well, until I hit about 24. Then I thought who really cares if I say the wrong thing? Just be yourself. Guys like girls who are a little shy anyway ;-)

Answer 8

Just start talking...i used to be so shy I would only talk to my sister, not even my parents. So as I got older I would start a simple conversation with people that I was in class with or wherever and after a while it seemed alot easier. So just practice!

Answer 9

Well to be plain a simple, don't care what others think and be yourself, be the one who is first to smile and always have confidence in yourself. Try joining clubs and sport teams. No one can judge you.

Answer 10

The more you put yourself in situations, where you know you will be shy, the better you will deal with it. And one day you will wake up and think, I am missing something... Good luck.