I have just dated this guy for a week and we saw each other few times. This guy is so caring and nice that made me to have sex with him at the very first date and we had more after. I kinda regret it now cause I don't want a guy to misunderstand me or feel I'm his F***body & want to use me only. Therefore, I want you to tell me what I'm supposed to do? What's the best way to stay away from all these ideas and "sex only" situations?
2007-01-14 18:45:58 · 16 answers · asked by ELK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you done anything together besides have sex? Are you actually dating? Do you have meaningful conversations? These are questions that will help you decide if you want the relationship to continue. A relationship with this guy sounds possible. You said he's caring and nice. Then he'll want to treat you as a girl that he's dating and not want to make you feel used. I'm not judging you. If you break up with him for whatever reason, going forward you will have learned from this relationship. Good luck.
2007-01-14 19:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is, if you've introduced sex into a relationship.. you can't very well just take it away.. or else he'll leave you for someone else. i'm not sure what kind of relationship you have or what the circumstances are.. but it's really good if you can talk to him about it. never try to manipulate a guy, or assume he knows what's going on and is going to be okay with it.. because most guys are stupid :).. you've got to explain to him that although you've had sex, you want to have a relationship tied to it.. and make sure that's what he's expecting, too. if you prolong it, or don't talk about it at all.. your feelings will just get more confusing.
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2007-01-14 18:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you told us; that you regret how quickly the relationship has progressed and want to step back from the physical area while you get to know him better. Then, don't set yourself up to be alone with the guy; double date, group functions, etc. You will soon find out whether or not he only wants you for sex, by his response.
best wishes,
cryllie
2007-01-14 18:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? You still have the right to say no next time, you do not have to have sex if it is not what you want and you don't have to see him again. If you want to you can do all of those things.
Everybody, including me, has an opinion but in truth it is only your opinion that counts since you have to live with the consequences.
It is only bad if you think so.
2007-01-14 19:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, do you have sex with every nice guy on the first date? cuz uh...not doing that would be the first and most effective way to make them not get the "wrong idea" and think it is a "sex only" situation. i can see how he could be thinking that you were a f*ckbuddy...youre making it awfully easy for him to assume that.
2007-01-14 18:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by dreamzindigital_20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youve already trapped yourself. im sorry, but guys brains dont have the capacity to weigh the situation
maybe he thinks you only want to be **** buddies?
really, this will get you nowhere relationship wise
he'll ignore you for a little, then come back wanting more but not commitment. he then will ignore you again until he gets horny
ive never seen a guy who has done different in this situation, im sorry.
2007-01-14 18:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy you sleep with on the first date, isnt going to want to be with you in a serious relationship so you have no worries.
2007-01-14 18:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by melvinbenjamin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, the only reason he was so nice to you was to get what he wanted, and it worked. Stay the heck away.
2007-01-14 18:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him where this relationship will lead off. Your actions would be according to what he answer. You know what to do afterwards.
2007-01-14 18:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by say_what!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will power! Control yourselves and wait until you two are certain with each other.... n
2007-01-14 19:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋