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cars (one of which is a Mustang Cobra) I have a great job, I have everything and I just turned 23 years old. But I feel so empty. There is nothing inside me. Why am I so empty? Why am I not happy? Why do I always want more? I am never satisfied. I always have to have more. It's all about the material things. I just want to buy things. But it doesn't make me feel better. I am not here. I am just a shell going through the movements. Please help me. I am so empty.

2007-01-14 18:39:27 · 20 answers · asked by Lost Soul 1 in Health Mental Health

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I go to AA. We discuss these issues at every meeting. You have an addiction to MORE. Its just as unfulfilling as alcohol or drugs.

2007-01-14 18:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0 0

Worth Magazine did an article on this last year. It said that once your basic needs are taken care of, like food, clothing and shelter, that more money does not lead to greater happiness. In fact, some people with money can be unhappier, because they don't get to have the fantasy that they'd be happier if they had more money.

If your unhappiness lasts longer than two weeks, you should get a complete physical with a doctor. It may be that you have low thyroid or something. If that's not the case, then seeing a therapist will definitely help. I also agree with people that you need to be involved with others, perhaps through going to a house of worship, helping the homeless, mentoring a young person through Big Brothers/Big Sisters, or finding someone to love.
Good luck!

2007-01-14 19:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0 0

Most of the adoptees I know that come here regularly - aren't 'unhappy' with 'life'. In real life - they're the funniest, wittiest & most intelligent people I know. They all have great and loving families. They have all had great jobs. Most own their own homes. And they are THE best detectives that I've ever known. You need to read deeper into what these adoptees have to say - to see what they're really talking about. Most of what they say is to protect more adoptees in the future - and reach out to those that need to know they are not alone. They're mostly unhappy with how adoption is currently practiced in the USA today. They're mostly unhappy with not being able to have their original birth certificate - no matter how old they are - as they are sealed forever for ridiculous reasons. They're mostly unhappy with people telling them that they should be grateful for being adopted - and not aborted. (although I'm sure this is quite crazy - as normal kids aren't told these things on such a regular basis) They're mostly unhappy with the way adoption agencies are too quick to take babies off mothers - because there is money to be made from getting those babies - instead of helping and encouraging mothers to parent. They're mostly unhappy with the lies that they have been told their whole lives about what an adoptee should feel. They're mostly unhappy when people tell them who they should be loyal to - when really - most want to love all their families - and hope to be loved the same way in return. They're mostly unhappy because too many adoptions take place to benefit adults - and not the children. They're mostly unhappy - because too many have no idea how it feels to be adopted - and sadly too many have no interests to even find out how that might feel. Adoption should have no lies. For adoption to happen - one child is taken from one family - and then placed (usually) in a completely different genetic family - usually with absolutely NO ties. The adoptee needs to know ALL their truth. An adoptee has 2 sets of parents (sometimes more) - and they should be allowed to know ALL personally - if at all possible. It's best for the adoptee's sense of self - and self worth. Genetics is a big part of all of us - and if we don't live around any that look or act like our genetics tells us too - we feel out of place. More truth in adoption - say it like it is - and an adoptee will be much more emotionally stable as they go through life.

2016-05-24 04:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think that you are too caught up in all of your material items and have forgotten what life is all about.

what I would do is take a short trip, being very minimal, and experience the great part of life. Go have a good time and not worry about your possessions and think more about you as a person and all the people around you that don't have things like you do, maybe not even a house, but they often find a way to keep their chin up and think positive. Try

2007-01-14 18:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There is a song that I recently was given. It is called more than enough, it is a meditation song. I found the words to be true and beautiful. It says, and I quote. "It has been said that in the life of every living creature, there are inexpressible longings for something. Something they do not now process. Like the biblical woman at the well, we all are searching for something. Something to satisfy so we find ourselves looking for fortune, and fame, but temporary pleasures only yield pain. The void is not filled the ache is not stilled, and it's all because the things of this earth can never satisfy a soul thirst. See the longing and craving yearnings, and urging, they were placed in us by our God, and not only is your desire from Him, your desire is for Him. And His desire is that it lead you to Him. To Him that alone can satisfy, a soul thirst. Jesus said it this way everyone who drinks from this well will thirst again. But who so ever drinks of the water that I shall give, shall never thirst again. For It will be in him a well of living water. Springing up into everlasting life." Maybe take the time to get to know God, really get to know Him, and maybe, just maybe you will find satisfaction. If you would like to talk about this more, feel free to either email or IM me.

2007-01-14 19:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mis I 1 · 0 0

Material things are not everything. To this day I still feel like that once in a while. I was fairly depressed until I figured out what was happening...

You feel like what you do is not significant. We've been trained (by our parents, friends, peers, media, etc.) that what you have reflects your success. We have accepted this, but it's not true. What makes a lot of us happy is feeling like you ACCOMPLISH something with your life...

Here's my suggestion. At work, start taking major steps to improve how important you are to the company. Take on a big project that is important to the company. Make it feel like you are accomplishing something. I bet you'll feel better - it'll be stressful at first, but the feeling of getting something done at the end of the day is great. It helps me.

Also, consider volunteering at your local homeless shelter, or animal shelter. You'll feel a lot better helping out those people (or animals) less fortunate than yourself. :)

2007-01-14 19:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Joesph Robinson 1 · 0 0

You do need some therapy, as this compulsion to keep buying things is being overdone. It can really be helpful to get it all out in the open with a live person.

You didn't mention if you have friends/family/girlfriend nearby to talk to. If you are away from most of the people you know, you might need to be keeping in touch with them on the phone--everyone needs someone who cares, at least to talk to.

There are self-help books at the library, check them out. You could also read books on obsessive-compulsive disorder--to see if you are suffering with that. For that matter, go to:

http://www.about.com

their search box is in the upper right-hand corner--put in mental health or obsessive-compulsive disorder--and see if you can find anything out about yourself tonight.

I wish you well.

2007-01-14 18:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0 0

You have judged your entire being on what you have instead of who you are. You are coming to the realization that money can't buy happiness! Get your *** into therapy while you are still anxious to find out why you feel this way. Remember this,the love of money is the root of all evil, and if you don't believe it, just look at what it's doing to you! Get some professional help,fast

2007-01-14 18:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by rick m 3 · 0 0

maybe you are not happy because you are searching for the wrong things.....you keep adding more materialistic objects in your life and that is not making you happy, so look to a different area...what about friends and family? hanging out with them much, or no? what about a women in your life? or you could be depressed because a lot of times people cant help how they feel based on a great situation or bad....good luck!

2007-01-14 18:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by kel37 3 · 0 0

Dear Lost sole why dont you go to a home less shelter and donate some of your time not money but of your self or the childrens sick ward and read to them play games just go out and give some thing of your self it dont cost a dime and the rewards are very life fullfilling please dont just donate money which im sure they would appreciate that kind of feeling only last a short time just like the money but to give a little of your self last a life time and it is painless.

2007-01-14 19:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by shelly f 2 · 0 0

ask yourself this question when are you goin to give some stuff away. Things will never make u happy
there will away be a better car and better house.
U need something spirtual give yourself to a cause greater than u man
and stop thinking about yourself think of others

2007-01-14 18:48:41 · answer #11 · answered by dizzy22 3 · 0 0

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