My girlfriend, she doesnt want to have sex coz she dont want to lose her virginity and asked me to wait until we are married.
I respect her decision, but the question is. is it really the only reason? or are there any other causes for she's acting like that? please share your experience for both of us.
2007-01-14 18:14:27 · 14 answers · asked by TIC TAC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am also saving myself for marriage and I am 19. I understand what she means and why she feels compelled to do so. I am saving myself to respect myself, my future husband and most importantly God, not to mention saving a lot of heartache (having sex involves emotions) and protection against STD's, pregnancy, etc.
I really like the song "Wait For Me" by Rebecca St. James, here are the lyrics:
Lyrics:
Darling did you know that I
I dream about you
Waiting for the look in your eyes
When we meet for the first time
Darling did you know that I
I pray about you
Praying that you will hold on
Keep your loving eyes only for me
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
Darling wait
Darling did you know I dream about life together
Knowing it will be forever
I'll be yours and you'll be mine
And darling when I say
Til death do us part
I'll mean it with all of my heart
Now and always faithful to you
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
I am waiting for
Praying for you darling
Wait for me too
Wait for me as I wait for you
Darling wait
Now I know you may have made mistakes
But there's forgiveness and a second chance
So wait for me darling
Wait for me
Wait for me
Written By Rebecca St. James / Copyright © 2000 Up In The Mix Music/Bibbitsong Music (BMI)
Behind the Song:
'The idea for this song came from letters that I have written to my future husband, that I will one day give to him. I sing it not just to him but on behalf of young women today, encouraging the future husbands of our generation to stay sexually pure, to wait for us.' ; 1 Timothy 4:12 NIV - Rebecca St. James
http://www.jesusfreakhideout.com/lyrics/new/track.asp?track_id=268
I also wear a purity ring that says TRUE LOVE WAITS to symbolize my decision to wait.
Best of luck to y'all and kudos to you for respecting her! God bless! :)
2007-01-14 18:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 3⤋
There's the "love them, then leave them" factor.
Some guys (I'm not saying you're one of them) will have sex with a girl, then leave her. Maybe she is afraid of that too.
She wants her first time to be special with the man she loves. You.
There's the safety factor. With AIDS and other STDs around, she wants to be sure you're the only one she will have sex with.
There's the religious or values factor: she may have been raised to believe in no sex before marriage.
For me: there was a time before I was married that I wanted to wait until I was married to have sex. Well, things changed for me and it did not happen that way. I gave my virginity to someone at 32 and I was not married yet. (It was not my husband.) Fortunately, things worked out okay. I'm married now and have been for eleven and a half years.
I think that if you two want to wait until you're married, then you should. There is too much dangerous stuff around these days and I give you much respect for waiting until marriage to have sex. I think you are a great man for respecting her decision and acting on it. I wish you two well.
2007-01-14 18:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tara662 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations. To you for respect her decision and to her for being herself even in the midst of a liberal society like ours.
It is the only reason...in my opinion; and if you honer her need of waiting until you get married she will honor and respect you a lot, lot more. This will make you both happy and give you strenght to build a solid relationship. I am proud of you guys!
2007-01-14 18:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Patylu 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she probably is being honest. it is a natural human instinct to have sex, so i'm sure she wants to, but chooses not to. the only other reason i can think is if you guys are young. if she thinks she is too young, she might give you the old waiting for marriage excuse to get you off her back. but chances are, she really just wants to wait. whether or not she will is an entirely different matter......
2007-01-14 18:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by laura 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
its just a braggin right you kno,
to me it would be,
but not only that also,
a gift that will never be returned.
now a days gurls are either virgins or not, the ones
that arent are usually confused by "whores" and those that arent as the ones that no one wants or classy.
for a girl to keep their virginity that long is not being classy its being respectful of oneself, or saving this gift.
she might want to hold on to see, if you really are there for HER not for the sex.
if you really love her you will wait
2007-01-14 18:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by joo 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not willing to take the chance of needing to ask a pregnancy question possibly.
2007-01-14 18:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ta Dah! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if your not sure of the reason that she gave you then perhaps you should talk to her about it. i think she is waiting for the right person and the right time and i think thats the right thing to do, with myself i wish i had waited, i rushed into it and now i regret it. if you think there is something she isnt telling you then talk to her, you wont know otherwise.
2007-01-14 18:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Moony 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Region. Because in the bible it says not to lose virginity till you are married.
2007-01-14 18:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by PJ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes traditional, want the first time to be special and with that special someone. its a good thing that you support her belief
2007-01-14 18:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by failed_to_love_u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its religious thing...if she choose that, you have to respect her decision.
As for me, i dont know..cos i always test drive first before thinking about married.
2007-01-14 18:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i dont want to get pregnant. plus i want to fel the passion. dont push her to do anything she doesnt want to do. keep respecting her. thats good.
2007-01-14 18:24:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋