how do i tell someone who loves me that i don't feel the same way?

Question

I have a girl i dateing. she says she loves me. i'm afraid that if i tell her how i really feel i will break her heart and i can't do that she is my best friend. i recently discovered the fact that i like guys and i don't want to be with her like that anymore. i just don't know how to tell her.she keeps push the whole sex thing and all it is doing is pulling us apart. normaly i wouldn't do this whole post message thing but after 9 months in a relationship and going on three months of trying to find a way to tell her i had to try something new. i've done everything but come out and say it. she is the most kind hearted person i know and i don't have the heart to say it. i have basicly been sacrificing my myself to keep her happy. my sister once said you know your in love when all you want to do is give that person everything. i don't feel that way. please if you have advise please give it.

Answer 1

Be upfront and straightfoward with her, don't beat around the bush, that will just prolong her agony as well as yours. It will be hard but you cannot keep stringing her along and you need to find yourself. Good luck.