Heres the thing, I'm in cali and ive been friends with a guy whos in Texas for a over a yr. We always keep in touch either via text or talk on the phone. We've always been ..friends on the surface u know...ive always thought of him as a friend..and nothing more. I didnt want to get into him cuz of the long distance relationship and cuz I know he doesnt want to commit. But now...ive discovered I have feelings for him. I'm really attracted to him. The truth is i dont wanna like anybody right now, so i dont know if i should keep talkin to him...or should i distance myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
2007-01-14 18:04:03 · 12 answers · asked by *Cali Sweetie* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's told me he likes me and that he likes our friendship...but i really do like him, its just that i get jealous thinking of him w/other grls...thats i think of distancing......i dont know what to do
2007-01-14 18:11:33 · update #1
Ive never met him...hes coming to cali on March...
2007-01-14 18:12:44 · update #2
By liking someone I mean a guy..i dont wanna get hurt
2007-01-14 18:13:27 · update #3
Then keep distance.... listen to your gut feelings. n
2007-01-14 18:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop yourself from liking someone just because you don't want to right now, that'd be silly. You could be missing out on something really great. I think that maybe if you tell him you're going to be really busy in the next few weeks, and then see what happens if you tone down on the talking to him. Think long and hard about if you want to bring it up to him though, make sure he is ready to hear it cause if he isn't then that might cause some problems. Good Luck.
2007-01-15 02:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by kelbel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its hard to kinda just forget someone. Are you sure you are strong willed enough to forget this guy? Sounds to me like you really like him. But does he like you? If you are serious about it and you start talking to him in a more meaningful way, maybe you should try out the long distance. Most other people might say forget it, it'll never work but if you both are willing. It can bring wonders.
2007-01-15 02:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by CiNdiEe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has not shown any kind of interest in you as more than friends i guess you should continue to talk to him but make sure you restrict yourself to being friends. Everything comes from your head (Brains) if you don't think of him as a lover then your heart wont either. If the reason for you not wanting him as a lover is good then stick to it and keep it in mind whenever you guys talk.
Good luck
2007-01-15 02:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to commit.
You have feelings for him. This is not a good situation.
Distance yourself from him and find someone else.
2007-01-15 02:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by MST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely keep talking to him...especially if he makes you happy. Have you met him yet? You never know..he could be the one. You may not WANT to like anyone right now, but that's not really your choice...GOD has a special plan for all of us!!!!
2007-01-15 02:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by jessteal2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever met him physically? If not, then don't meet him - keep on talking and e-mailing.
What do you mean you don't want to like anyone now? Does that include your parents, siblings, pets?
I would suggest you keep to talking for now.
2007-01-15 02:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by proofofignorance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. this sound exactly like my friend Ali's situation...right down to the guy being in texas and her being here in cali... crazy....
well anyways... tell him how you feel you should live your life with no regrets... if he doesnt like like you back well at least you know... if he stops being your friend because of it then he wasnt worth your feeling in the first place.
2007-01-15 02:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by J.M.J.F.W. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing... if you don't pursue this, you will never know if anything could've come of it.... so you have to pursue it and open up to the opportunity that may not be there again. EMBRACE THE OPPORTUNITY. Life is far too short to have regrets.
2007-01-15 02:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to him. You have developed a relationship based on conversation instead of sex, that's good, he might be your future husband or something, keep in touch, don't move to fast, and relax.
2007-01-15 02:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by recordexec 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋