hey, i'm 19 and i'm having an issue with my boy. its not huge, and i haven't brought it up to him yet. he's 20...is this normal?
it seems like he's a little more interested in spending time with the guys than he is with spending time with me. i know he loves me, but it just seems like if he were given the choice, he'd rather be drinking with the guys than spending some cutesy time with me. makes me sad! but i think its normal....
any words of advice? anything i could do..besides get naked for him?
2007-01-14 18:03:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are still young.... something you can do is have date nights so he can spend time with you and let him have boys night so he can hang out with his friends. He is a guy he needs his time with the guys.... is normal.
2007-01-14 18:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by jayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear this is what 20 year old boys do, hang out with their "boys", act like jerks and it will pass but not for about, oh, another 7,8 years! Tell him you need your alone time too. And make sure if he schedules a guys night for say a Friday he tells you by Tuesday so you have time to make plans with the girls. If you are less available to him too, he will want to see you more. Guys don't like cutesy time, not at 20. Let him know how you feel and go from there. Good luck, I don't miss that dilehma.
2007-01-15 02:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i would call it normal, but it is common. the problem comes down to maturity, as many things with boys do. it is immature for him to think drinking with his friends is more important than his girlfriend. but you shouldn't expect, or want, him to spend all of his time with you, either. there has to be a balance. you cant expect him to change, though, if you haven't talked to him, especially if it has been this way for awhile, and he might think you're ok w/ it.
my recommendation is to talk to him... let him know how you feel... see if he makes an effort, before freaking out on him. it might also be a good idea to make one day of the week "your day." one day a week that is good for both of you, commit to spending it together, no matter what. no work, no friends... just you. it will be a commitment for both of you, and a step in the right direction.
ps... you can always approach this conversation as "I've noticed we haven't been spending much time together lately, we should both try to spend more time together instead of with our friends." this way, he won't see it as an attack.
2007-01-15 02:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys will be boys, if you haven't had sex yet try that! lol
2007-01-15 02:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by happy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. if he doesnt respect that then he isnt worth it, and you should find someone else.
2007-01-15 02:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by J.M.J.F.W. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REPORTED!
2007-01-15 03:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Rotten Egg Farts Smell Delicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋