husband still attached by the umbilical.....?

Question

what the *#@* do i do? anymore i'm not so sure that i even love him like i use to. his mom wants to be a part of our marriage cause all of her marriages have ended. she literally makes me sick and anytime she can get a minute she makes comments to try to bother me or start an arguement between hubby and myself. he says that her personality is hard and still says nothing to her. i've gone as far as talking to a lawyer about ending our marriage and i'm still here. i don't know what the heck i'm waiting for. i know i have to sh*t or get off the pot, but i'm not working and because of alot of different issues i can't even start looking for a job because right now i wouldn't be a realiable employee. ughh.. any true advice....anyone? i talk to my family but of course they all take my side...my mom keeps saying since we have a child that we should work things out. in the past she has always been right.. but i need to be happy. my mom told me that the mil was a jack*ss on her 1st impression

colleen o........ oooooo let me tell you she acted like my best friend before we were married.....on our big day she told me that i married her favorite child....... she has 5 kids! everything was ok before we wedded!

Answer 1

my mother in law was like that too and i felt the way you do, until the day she had a blood clot in her brain and died. However, if that happens, he's all yours.
my hubby was a huge mamma's boy. and to some degree, he's still attached, because now he goes running to his sister when things get bad. There really isn't much you can do, except tell him to grow up!

Answer 2

Have you seen the movie "Monster In Law" LOL!! If you and hubby had 2 weeks in Hawaii would you have a good time together? If SHE is making your marriage fail ,your husband needs to see that, and distance her. Sounds like maybe your husband is intimidated by her. Thats why its working for her!! I think Dr. Phil would say to ignore your Mom in laws calls for a week or so. Only talk to her once a week to tell her you love her or something. Your husband has to cooperate. You...his wife...are more important. He doesnt have to HATE his Mom. Just let her loveingly know her place in your lives by only letting her share certain parts. If he cant do that...you will probably loose more respect and finnaly one day you will have enough. and the rest will possibly be history!! My Dad and Mom divorced when I was 19 and I got married when I was 20. I lived away from home for 5 yrs. then bought 5 acres of land from my grandparents . They are nosey and my Dad gets lonely and wants to hang out alot around the house. When I see he is getting on my husbands nerves, we just sorta give him the cold shoulder, and dont call or see him for about a week and he usually gets the picture. Your Husband is going to have to make a concious effort to put YOU first, nevermind hurting his Moms feelings. I think she is coming between you two. If you love him fight for him. Copy all the answers and leave them in his car....he'll get the picture...MAYBE!!

Answer 3

Tell your husband that his first priority should be you and his child. NOT his mother. I would suggest moving if that's an option. But you need to win over your husband and beat this woman at her own game! Show your husband that taking your side can be a LOT more fun than taking his mom's! Then get naked and show him how! Show him that a loving wife is WAY better than a domineering mother. But the bottom line is that a child is involved here. And explaining to your child that the reason why you and their daddy got divorced is because you can't stand grandma sounds pretty weak. Even to me.

Answer 4

Do your best for this relationship. Your main reason for that is your child. Unfortunately you married a mama's boy and it is a package deal you have to deal with using your brain.
My suggestions:
1-Never compete w/mom. She is unique and will always be.
2-Keep your distance w/her but never be rude. You can be rude to your own mom and she will forgive you before you even realize you were rude. Your mother-in law will never forget and will turn her son against you. She will take advantage of every situation to make you feel bad.
3-Seldom, almost never visit her but do not interfere with the relationship between son/mom and grand kid/grandma. Whenever she calls your house be courteous, keep conversation to the minimum (excuse yourself by saying that you are cooking or are bathing your child. Use your imagination in order to be tactful. In other words do not give her any ammunition that she can use against you. Be patient, she is not going to last forever. Your husband probably has very good qualities as well. Remember, changing husbands means changing to different problems and no one will love your child like the father.

Answer 5

LOL....welcome to having a MIL! Sucks huh? Now you know why there are all kinds of jokes and movies made out there about MIL being such beasts. The only way to get thru this is to smother her with love. Be all over her every way you can. Show up at her house at the butt crack of dawn with a plate of cookies and cocoa. Call her every time you cook and ask how to make something even if you know how, and don't write it down. Shower her with gifts and constantly tell her you love her and call her mom. After killing her with kindness and being annoying as possible she will get the drift and leave you alone. I went thru this and she couldn't say anything nasty about me ever again. My MIL used to check my mail, walk thru my front door with her key that she had made, bring over groceries and act like I couldn't cook, offer my husband to come over and eat her food if he didn't like mine...I could go on and on. Trust me. I know. Sometimes these types of women panic and think they're not needed anymore and turn into psycho beasts, that's my theory anyways. Rent the movie "Monster in Law" and you'll catch what I'm talking about.

Answer 6

I feel he needs to know that although his mother may mean well, she is causing a rift between him and you. You would like to be a strong couple raising a family of their own but that is intruded on by his mother. I'd let him know that together you need to back one another up when one of you speaks to her and start bringing this marriage back to basics or you just can't stay and live with things this way any longer. Let him know you need his help and strength along with yours to draw the boundaries for his mom. Can he really not see that she is destroying what you two have?

Answer 7

The twine from the mother to the toddler is linked to the placenta. Your placenta or afterbirth is the only organ that your physique generates once you're born. you come back with each and all of the others; coronary heart, lung, kidneys. while we clamp the twine, the mother expels the placenta with the the rest area of the umbilical twine nonetheless linked. This area is what the countless controversy is over "stem cellular learn". some mothers and dads are keeping their babies twine blood or umbilical twine for destiny desires might desire to they get up.

Answer 8

The 3 of you need to sit down & set some things straight. If everything else in the relationship is ok then it's worth saving. Don't let mom be the snapping point. That's ridiculous. I don't know how old you 2 are, but if your married your old enough to make your own decisions, & start with telling her to BUTT OUT!

Answer 9

Hi Magdalina!!

I know some one who went through that and it was a night mare!!!

Married with two kids, she always told me as her best friend that the mother in-law, and sisters in-law always were making trouble. When gatherings she they were always gossiping and talking when she was not looking, about her!!!

They moved to another state, but there it was a lot of new problems, so they moved back, near his fa. again. He was also taking her for granted, a lot!!!

To make the story short, after 12 years and a lot of heart aches, and I told you so!!! They got divorced. Is like a never ending story I guess!!!

I don't think he will change, in his attitude towards the situation. If you are not happy so that is that!!!

I know my friend was not and she held on for the kids for 12years!! But like they say somethings, never change!!!

GOOD LUCK TO YOU, GOD BLESS YOU

ALLIV Z

Answer 10

I hate it for women when I hear that mess. If she wants a husband than she needs to find one of her own and leave you the hell alone! But then he's so whipped he won't say anything to her. I feel for you girl and i nearly had one those for a minute until I realized she was no good and so was her son and they are both gone. But at least now she can't say I wasn't good enough b/c he's the one that did 8yrs. in jail and not me. She did time too but not me. So that's where that cookie crumbles. Good luck! Maybe she'll end up in jail too.