i've been in this relationship for four months already. and just this weekend, we had a fight..bec the whole time we're together, instead doing stuffs we usually do.. he keeps on waiting for messages from friends, etc. like when i was kissing him, right in the middle of the fun part, he would put me on hold and reply to those people.. then on friday night, i got really pissed, i texted him that i'll be sleeping early.. and that i'll text him the next morning to wake him up (i'm staying over his parent's house for two weeks)so i texted him a goodnight message..he sensed the irony..he asked if i'm jealous... i said i'm not... then he said he's sorry... i said whatever... so i slept... hahaha... mind you... that was the only night we could have to ourselves.. the next day he asked what's wrong with texting.. i told him there's nothing wrong with it... he got mad... i said i overreacted and i'm sorry. today, he said he's bored... he wants something new...i'm lost from here..help?? =...(
2007-01-14 17:31:20 · 12 answers · asked by april_wy_lalala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also, he got mad because i over reacted.. and that he was texting his cousin... and he would usually show me his phone or his messages while texting.. now he's hiding them... help? hullo? four months? and he's bored? what am i gonna do? we go to movies, make-out, eat outside, walk around together, shop together... bored with what??? this is the only conflict he cried by the way.
2007-01-14 17:35:35 · update #1
If he is bored with you after4 months then it is obviously not a love that will last forever. Be glad you didnt waste more than four months to figure this out.
2007-01-14 17:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta teach this man something he doesn't know! You need to stop focusing on the petty little details of everyday text-msging and start thinking about something that will keep your man's attention. How about an exciting day at an amusement park, dinner and a movie, or a boat ride or something! Do something together that you will remember for the rest of your lives. Like skydiving together...I think you are bored too and that is why you are worried about his cell, if you had something to do, you would care less about the texts. Fulfill your destiny and purpose in life so you won't have time for petty arguments.
2007-01-14 17:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by recordexec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know u feel he's kinda distracted when he does that...and he shouldn't...but its really not a big deal. U have to talk to him nicely and openly instead of indulging in sarcasm..which rarely helps. Tell him u wanted to be with him so much and u felt bad that there were other things on his mind at that time. You both should give each other full attention,when together.
As for the bored part...its natural(although im sorry to say but its too early in your case,since its been only 4 months)..bring in some fun...do something u both like to do...some sports,dancing??...But yeah..the effort should come from BOTH of you...instead of him telling u he's bored and waiting for u to do something bout it. Good luck
2007-01-14 17:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth your time girl! I mean texting in the middle of kissing? That's horrible!! I can't believe he did that to you. Honestly, I've been through something like this before. Talk to him about it and try not to just get mad at each other. If he's really not feeling it anymore, you've gotta let him go. Don't get desparate and do anything he wants. You'll regret it. Take a step back and think about the thing that's best for you.
2007-01-14 17:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by iluvatm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend has more important things to do than be with you. If you want to save the relationship, you need to talk to him and tell him that he needs to spend less time on his phone and more time paying attention to you. If that doesn't work, I say dump him. What's wrong with his texting is that he's doing it at all the wrong times, like in the middle of a make-out session. Who in their right mind does that? Making out is one of God's greatest inventions. It should not be interrupted by texting. He wants something new like a punch in the face. Well, maybe not. I'm just a little frustrated because he thinks that you can't hold his attention, when (from what you are telling me) it sounds like he doesn't want to be interested in you.
Please keep in mind, this is my opinion based only on what you have described.
2007-01-14 17:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, he'd definitly bored. tell him how you feel and dont you dare feel sorry or say sorry to anything you don't mean. If he cant respect your wishes, then get out of it while its still early. Next thing you know, he'll be textin while your doing grown ppl stuff!! Heck, you'll be lucky if he stays awake!!!
I'm sure you can do better, he sounds like an airhead if he doesn't have the common sense to divert 90% of his attn to you while you're together. And he's hidin the texts from you?? Sounds like he's makin plans to move on to me...just being honest...
2007-01-22 16:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by The One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your too young to be in a serious relationship! Break it off. Go to school. Focus on your career and yourself for a while. There's nothing wrong with dating, but if you're under 25, and I'm guessing you are, you should not be in a serious relationship at this time in your life.
2007-01-22 14:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by J. Hoffman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he bored with u let him .If he is for u he will come back ,this type of behaviour is normal for both of u.If he can get onther why not u?just think, now within 4 months u see him what type of he is as a person.even affter that u r loving him i will say good luck.
2007-01-14 17:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by sumsin60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably spend too much time together guys are easily bored when that happens in future make your time quality over quantity
2007-01-14 17:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
surprise him with something unexpected, dont give him what he wants right away, tease him, guys like a challenge...
2007-01-14 17:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by failed_to_love_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋