Invited a couple over for dinner? They called 2 hours before they were supposed to here, saying their were going to be 2 hours late. I was not happy-but said ok, So the time rolls around when they are supposed to be here---no show. One hour-- 15 minutes later they call and say they will be here in 15 minutes. I being really mad by this time said--let's just skip it, We ate an hour ago, and I do not feel like warming everything back up and doing another clean up. So now they are mad because I cancelled. I spent over 50 dollars on this meal, several hours of cooking, and even made the husband something special, because the wife said he might not like what I was serving. They were late because they were watching the Bears football game..Am I right to be upset? Or should I just let it go?
2007-01-14 17:30:08 · 16 answers · asked by Kismitt 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If they were in an accident or something then I would understand but watching a game? Forget it, you don't need friends like that. Let them come to you to say sorry, it is not your place to back down. Stay strong
2007-01-14 17:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by sand 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious!!! I would never invite them over again! Obviously they are idiots if they got mad at you for going ahead and eating and then telling them let's skip it. I could see if they had a valid reason for being late, such as a medical emergency, but other than that, I would say that showing up 10-15 minutes late is acceptable. I ALWAYS ask if I am being asked over for dinner, what time is dinner being served? If they say 6:30 and then say but come over for 6:00 I will always arrive at 6:10 or 6:15 in the event they are scrambling to get things ready. But anymore late than that is unacceptable. These people are not your true friends otherwise they would have had the respect to show up on time and would have asked if they can turn on the Bears game...Common sense! GET NEW FRIENDS!
2007-01-15 17:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by hugsandsmilesplease 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, just me but, I would never call and say I was going to be a couple of hours late. Especially only a short time before the dinner. The only way I would be late is if something major happened and if that were the case I would just cancel. That is just rude period! And for what? A game. That is ridiculous. If it meant that much couldn't they have watched it from your home? Why did they even make plans if they knew this game was on? Who cares if they are mad. They aren't good friends if they pull that, and if I were you I would never invite them over for dinner again. Of course you have every right to be upset. I would probably eventually forgive them but like I said, I wouldn't go out of my way to do anything for them every again and I definitely would not make plans with them. Every Christmas my father in law was invited for dinner. He would always call afew hours before and say he wasn't feeling well. A couple of years ago, it was an hour before dinner, I got my husband to call him and he said he wasn't coming. He has not been invited since.
2007-01-15 01:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are right at being upset. They should have arranged to be there on time. They could have taped the rest of the game and watched it when they returned home.
They were extremely inconsiderate in asking you to post-pone 2 hours because of a game and then they had the gall to call over an hour after the "new" time to say they would be there soon. And, to top it off they were upset with you! That's ridiculous!
I would have done the same thing you did.
2007-01-15 19:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are right to be upset and next time don't invite them again. 15 minutes is supposed to be the grace period not unless their is a very good reason to be late (such as traffic, lost their way) but their excuses is rediculous. You should cancel the dinner the first time they called, telling them you have other things to do in 2 hours (at least pretend even you don't have other plans). this will give them the idea that you have life of your own as well.
2007-01-15 06:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by linda c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be upset. They could have called and said that they were watching football and could they see it at your house so they could enjoy your dinner and watch football at the same time . Remind yourself never to invite them again. Who needs friends like them.
I had a friend that cooked Thanksgiving dinner for her family while they were watching a football game. Called them in to say that dinner was on the table. They didn't come, so after the game was finished, they want know where all the food was. She said that it was all in the trash. They all come to the table now whenever she said dinner was ready.
2007-01-15 01:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by nannygoat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one hour is too late if you were doing cocktails then a meal but if the meal was suspsted to be on the table at 5pm then at 501 you are too late according to my dad and mom when they say dinner will be served at a time then you are there or u are using a microwave i figure you had dinner an it was going to be at around 4 or 5 an if they were going to run 2 hrs late they got there 7 to 8 an they were going to still be an hour late an be there 8 to 9pm they are out of there minds if you were going to have dinner for an hr then you were going to be cleanning up at 11 or 12 pm there need to grow up i say dont invite them again you dont need to stress yourself out again
2007-01-15 01:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They are not your friends. Find other friends. They are selfish. You have every right to be upset. You should've canceled it when they said they'll be 2 hours late. That's ridiculous. If I was them, I have two options: not go to the ball game, or tell you we couldn't make it and in return will make you dinner (or treat you).
Next time you prepare dinner for them, prepare cold meal.
But I would suggest you not to become friends with them anymore.
Plus, they must have planned quite a while to see the game, not decide to see it 2 hours befor they have plans with someone, 'cause that means they don't respect you and your effort to make dinner for them too.
2007-01-15 01:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by BryanB 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Those people are incredibly rude. Don't ever invite them to your house again. That kind of lateness is only acceptable in the case of a real emergency, liking getting in an accident or having to go to the doctor. A football game? Please.
2007-01-15 03:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd never talk to them again. The best they could have done was cancel, but they didn't even have the class to do that. Apparently, they expected you to reschedule your life so they could have fun. They are inconsiderate at best,, down right rude at worst. Let it go, but let them go too. C.
2007-01-15 01:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋