im 17 and hes 19. me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 years. we have a baby and i live with my bf and his mom. we love each other very much but he sometimes treats me like hes my dad. he tells me what to do and i have to ask for permission before i can go out even if its with my mom. he plays with our son but expects me to do everything else with him. also, when we fight he cusses at me and calls me bad names. he also treatens to kick me out if i dont obey what he says. he uses that against me because i dont have anywhere else to go. i love him so so much but im scared to say anything. please help!!!
2007-01-14 17:27:54 · 11 answers · asked by ♥Sher♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, please GET OUT. I've been in this kind of relationship and ended up with a broken nose from one guy and a black eye from another.
I'm SURE there are battered women's shelters in your area that can help. DO NOT GO to family/friends. This guy is a jerk who will seek you at at any obvious place. The police can help you find a place to go where he cannot find you and IF it gets to the point where he injures you (which he will, it sounds like, if you dont' move quickly), then you can get a restraining order.
Best advice I have is to NOT THINK HE WILL CHANGE, and just get out. TAKE YOUR SON AND GET HIM A BETTER LIFE PLEASE.
2007-01-14 17:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Avon Lady 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I did`nt read all your question, because the answer is right there. Your b/f is grieving, grieving for the loss of his child, his dad, he feels he has lost control. He is back from the funeral, and you are talking about seeing houses the next morning because you think hes "ok and normal" but inside hes in turmoil, he cannot see past that day, and you talking about "future". It was too much too soon, and he felt overwhelmed. People deal with grief differently, some break down, others take a while, some look normal, and it hits them after the funeral, but all in all, these people need a hug and an ear. I know you suffered loss too, and i know you love him and dont want to leave him, so you both need to sit down and "listen", he has lost too much already.. losing you could be so detremental for him. Dont give up on each other XXX
2016-03-28 22:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling you. Control turns into abuse get out while you can. Don't just stay there because you have no place to go. Do you have any family that would help you out for the time being? That or if it came down to it a shelter. I know thinking about that sucks but that would be better than being controlled like that. You are not his puppy.
2007-01-14 17:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your bf is a control freak. This can expand from getting permission from him to do things to beating you up if you don't obey. You need to explain your situation to your mom, and then you need to make arrangements with your mom to have a safe haven with her. Then you need to take yourself and the baby to your mom's house so that your bf knows he doesn't have that "I'm going to kick you out" hold on you.
Incidentally, you may love him very much, but his feelings for you aren't the same as yours are for him. He's a control freak, and eventually, he will stop the threats of kicking you out, and turn to threats of beating you up. Unless you do something to protect yourself right now, you will most likely end up being a battered woman.
You need to share your experience with your mom so that she can help you. If your mom is indifferent to the danger you are in, you need to tell your story to the police and ask them to refer you to a free counselor for guidance.
2007-01-14 17:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well his using you some how well...Well Us Male well him tho he is of those men that take advantage of women and if they dont do nothing that he says he will threaded you kicking off the house and all that...I think he just scared that if one day you go he has to pay child support....and i think that you dont love him in my opinion i think is a kind of a routine or you just scared to loose what you have...
2007-01-14 17:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Tha best!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this guy is on a major power trip and it is wrong. Please phone a help line right away and get help, living with threats is not good for you or your baby, He needs to learn his place is beside you not standing in your back. This is a very serious situation and not to be excused as he is not that bad, he is , and you need to get help now
2007-01-14 17:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so wrong, u need to get out of there asap thats not a way to live, u and your baby should be happy togethere ive seen this stuff happen to my friends and i told them the same thing and now they thank me every day 4 it. i hope i have helped u out. good luck
2007-01-14 17:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to go live with your mom or grandparents. Do you want your son to treat his wife like that? By staying, you are teaching him that this is ok behaviour.
2007-01-14 17:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by g g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking this is a very bad environment for your child get counseling or get out. They have shelters if worse comes to worse.
2007-01-14 17:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Brown 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of this situation it the beginning of a controlling
abusive relationship and you and your child dont need that, at
your age it time to get help. maybe family members or someone
that can help you with this. this will not get better trust me, it
will get worst.
2007-01-14 17:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋