im confused someone help me need advice.?

Question

my best friend like this guy he is a senior and we are sophmores, well she like him since our freshman year and well this year he comes up to me and give me his number i like him too but not as long as she has i just now saw him this year. but anyways she said that if i went out with him she would be mad at me. is this fair. i think that if he doesn't like her then she should let me go out with him. what should i do.

Answer 1

tell her to STFU!!!

Answer 2

This is the age old question. It would be different if she'd been dating or if she had dated him but she hasn't. Neither you or her can help how you feel about someone, or who you're attracted to. Tell her that you can't help who you are attracted to. Maybe you could tell the guy that you'd love to go out with him but your best friend has been in love with him for over a year and so it's going to be a little difficult for you. You could ask your friend not to be mad at you because you can't help how you feel that you do like him but you can tell her that you don't have to act on it...but if he's not going to like her or ask her out...then it's a waste of attraction.

Answer 3

That's how Friends are sometime when your young like that ! It's not fair , because if you don't go out with him He still won't like her most likely would he? Or he'd see someone else if not you right? I f he doesn't like her that's not your fault ! Tell her you can't help it and its not your fault that he doesn't like her but, he does like you and you like him and you see nothing wrong with that, if that's how you feel? !! On the other hand you have to decide if your willing to loose a friend over him? Are you serious enough about him and he you to loose a friend? Maybe talk with him awhile and tell him why you can't see him but keep it between you to. Just be friends with him and get to know him first, because he may not be worth losing a best friend over !! You can tell your friend that you are just going to be friends with him . and see if anything comes of it with him, that way you can find out more about him and how you feel about him without loosing a friend for maybe nothing!! Just because you like him doesn't mean you always will! You could find out later you don't,so you never know? then it would be to late to get your friend back! She can't be mad if you all are just friends !! if it leads to more then you will know who to pick then!!! I'd pick the man I love !! But you can't pick yet !!

Answer 4

If the situation was reversed, how would you feel? What if you really liked this guy and he came up and gave your friend his phone number, even though she only kind of liked him, would you be mad if she went out with him?

If your friend tells you this is not cool, you have one of two choices. You can choose to be supportive of your friend and reject this guy, or you can choose to be with this guy and reject your friend. Whether this is fair or not is irrelevant because this is the choice you are facing.

Answer 5

Alright--You have every right to go out with this guy. Yes your friend is going to be upset but she'll get over it.

Now, I would be jealous and upset, for quite some time knowing me, if my friend did this to me. You're young, trust me... you both will have many crushes and many loves in your life.

It's up to you though. If you decide to go out with this guy, be prepared. I don't know what your friend is capable of, but I remember being in high school and girls, as I'm sure you know, can be pure evil. (Rumors? Cold shoulder? etc...)

If you decide to not go out with him, that's cool of you to value your friendship more than just a date. I don't know this guy's interest level in you--but like I said, you're young, many more crushes and loves to come. And you could just take it as a huge compliment and ego boost that a senior gave you his number.

You could also try talking to your friend. It's not your fault he gave you his number. I'm not saying go, I'm not saying don't go--that you have to decide for yourself. But the above are my thoughts on it...

I hope they help in some way or another.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Well, apparently this friend is not a good friend? Because if she was a good friend, you would not betray her over a guy. Have you ever had one of your friends date someone that you still had feelings for? If you do date him, you can count on losing your friend. Is it worth that for something that probably won't last past 7th hour anyway?

Answer 8

She liked him first so she sees it like as he was hers first, and the fact that her best friend might have a chance to live her dream is Heart breaking, So I will recommend you to let this guy go and find some one else, don't loose some one that cares about you to gain some one that only want to get into your pants. You will regret it later. Move on is not worth it.

Answer 9

friends don't let friends drink and date check him out first he probably will play the game- two is better than one -find out his
intentions first and don't get in his car if he's been drinking I was not popular in school but there were more deaths of the popular girls in high school cuz they went out with guys that drank--neither came back from the prom so keep your eyes open

Answer 10

get rid of the girlfriend.... she obviously doesn't care how you feel and she's a taker..... and why should she LET you go out with him????? Is she your mother.....??????????? Why can't you decide on your own who you can go out with? Tell your girlfriend to stop playing stupid mind games.....

What....she's jealous cause he doesn't want her so she doesn,t want you to have him.... where I come from, we call a girl like that a witch.... but you should really change the w to a b....

Answer 11

well u have to think..which is more important for u..him or her...i believe that u should choose her over him...not its not fair but she is ur friend n she will always be there for u...he will just be there for a while until u break up....friends last longer than relationship.