What to do?

Question

I've been in a long distant relationship for the past 5 years...I'm in love with her. and yesterday I found out that she was cheating with a gaycoworker. we talked all night last night and she was saying she was sorry and that she wanted to still be with me. and that she didnt want to be with her and it was her being curious about women.questioning her she has been seeing her for months. Today when i talked to her, her story was still the same she wanted to be with me and was in love with me. but she thought it was best to be friends. I was hurt and crying so i said fine you want to be with her she consistantly said no i want to be by myself. so i called her later tonight and the girl picks up the phone and was saying **** about her being her girlfriend now and that she doesnt want to be with me and hangs up.3 times i called back, then my now exgirl answers and says she wants to be with her cause she. I gave up my family and medical school 4 her I have revenge in my heart. what to do

Answer 1

I know it isn't as easy to do as to say,but you should really move on.It will take time, I know, but eventually one day you will find a girl that really appreciates you and wouldn't think of anyone else but you. If you still stick up to your ex you'll miss the chance of finding that one who will really care about you. I know now you feel upset and don't even want to think about other relationships, but that's ok and pretty normal.Besides 5 years is a long time to be with someone and I know it's never easy to forget so take your time - it will do you good in the long run. Now you can try to find some activities that you enjoy doing and that will keep your mind away from your ex, but don't jump in another relationship right away just to forget her - it will not be fair to the new girl and to you too - I guess you don't need another disappointment right now...
And the other thing you can do is learn from your experience and your previous mistakes so that the same thing doesn't happen again. My advice is never to give up important things in your life like education,family or religion for a relationship! Trust me if the person next to you really loves you, she will love you for who you are and will be happy at your achievements in education or work! I myself had to move to another city to go to college - that was 2 years ago, I was in a relationship then and I still am with that same boy. Although we see each-other just on weekends once in two weeks, our relations are just as deep as they were before - he is happy for me studying and even if it depended on him, he would never do something to stop me from going to college. Besides people tend to love independent people - that means that it's good if you have your goals in life and do something to achieve them. It makes the person next to you respect you even more and don't forget that respect is important for love.Would you love someone you don't respect?Now I suggest that you focus on your own life for a while - start studying for exams and try to get in college,put in order your relationship with your family,find some hobby that inspires you,go out more often,meet new people...who knows - maybe your true love is much closer than you think;)
I hope that helps a little and I wish you good luck!

Answer 2

Your still young. Go back to school, get a Great job, get a hot girlfriend-in that order! Let your ex go! You should NEVER have been having such a serious relationship going on while trying to go to med school in the first place! You become a doctor, you'll be able to get a wonderful, intelligent, beautiful girl. Women LOVE successful men! Look at Donald Trump. He has the worst comb over anyone has ever seen and he's had nothing but hot women after him. That's how you get your revenge! Be a success BECAUSE she got out of the way of the better life that is in your future, the hotties that will be coming into your life, and the great job that is coming your way.

Answer 3

Hey brother,Its really unfortune all this happend to you...I can understand your emotional condition.To start with...see as you said you shared a long distant relationship with this girl for 5 years..Its really tough for you to forget her, cause the picture that you have painted of her in your heart..has been shattered.N'ways life isnt that easy.I have all the sympathy for you and would really like to help you.But the questions that really bother my mind in your scenario is that why to work on things that really dont deserve your precious time and efforts???Understand one thing straight...that relationship wouldnt have worked out anyways.Make-up your mind cause she has already made her decision...and i gaurantee you...You are lucky chap for not having her in your life.And the question of taking a revenge doesnt really exists.Cause you have to feel happy for not getting into a relationship that would have given you a mental stress which i am very sure you are into rightnow.Enjoy yourself cause life is beautifull...and a beautifull soul like yours deserver beautifull things in life.So just chill out,dont forget her..but remember her cause she is the reason to save you from all the mental depression that you would have gone through in comming years.She has already crossed her boundaries and tommorrow may leave no stone unturned to hurt you.Understand this and take care of yourself.Bye

Answer 4

Sounds like she wanted something different. forget the revenge but you should never gave up your dreams for someone else. Go on with your life find someone new but not for a while. Meanwhile get your life back on track do what YOU need to do.

Answer 5

You said you gave up your family and medical school for her? It was your decision; not hers. So why the blame game? Pick up where you left off, go back to school and your family.

Don't let hate destroy your life. Forgive and forget; you'll find love again.

Answer 6

there nothing that you can do but move on, it hurt to have feeling
for soome one and they dont feel as you do but revenge is not
the answer. just tak this for what it worth, and leave it as it is
it sound like she confused about what she want but think about
this she will mess all the perks when you finish medical school
then she will be kicking her self trust me. she will.

Answer 7

You gave up Family and School for some you never met in person ? Ouch

Answer 8

U should let her go....seems like she want to be with her "friend".....u deserve better. Some 1 to love u...not because shes confused..or trying to experiment. good luck

Answer 9

Shes not cheating on you. Probably she doesn't want a long distance realtionship.

Answer 10

lose the tramp. arent their girls where you live forget that girl dont giv her the time of day otherwise yol be a push over all your lif stand up for yourself