My boss is having a wedding on Sat Feb 3. He also asked me to ask my date. So on 1/10/07 I asked my date and my date said Yes, he can go to my boss's wedding. So I turned in the RSVP and told my boss we both can make it. I gave my date 3 1/2 weeks prior notice about the wedding date. Then 4 days later 1/14/07 he sent me an email saying that his sister and his whole family is coming into town and they will have dinner that night. Same night of the wedding. So therefore, he cannot make it to the wedding. Would you be upset?? or would you be forgiving? Please provide your answer and also the explanation as to why you have chosen that answer.
2007-01-14 17:03:29 · 27 answers · asked by Milleniumsky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be very disappointed but since it is his family who are traveling from out of town I might be willing to forgive under the following circumstances; 1)his family will be in town only a few days and this is the ONLY evening they could all get together 2)he apologized profusely and attempted to make it up to me in a grand way 3)he has no qualms whatsoever about my taking the first available hunk in his place.
2007-01-14 17:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset, funny how your date got a family dinner on that night of your boss's wedding. What a coincidence. Really cool how he contacted you too via e-mail, instead of phoning you or in person. What a nice guy for a date. I would find someone else asap to go with you to the wedding, even if it is just a male friend, then you have a great time. If your original date asks you about the wedding after. I would just say, 'You should have been there to find out'. the end.
2007-01-15 01:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said he could go to the wedding when he thought he was free to go. Now, his family has crossed him up and decided to show up at the same time frame.
That's not his fault. Don't be mad.
Now, you have to make some choices.
1. Can you afford to now turn down boss's invitation? Would this cause hard feelings between you and boss? If you tell boss that you can't come after all, would boss be ok with that? Mine sure wouldn't have understood that. If I said I'd go, he would expect me to be there.
2. Can you get another date for the wedding? Maybe you have another friend, or co-worker who needs a date? Oh, and if you choose this option, be sure you tell your boyfriend that you are doing this. Don't sneak.
3. If you can't get another date, could you feel okay about going by yourself?
2007-01-15 01:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be upset. However, the good part about this is that you have learned something valuable about your friend. I would explain to your boss that your date had a last minute family committment, and find another date to attend your bosses wedding. He/She will be hurt if you don't attend, and of course you will want to go with someone. I would not bear a gruge about the incident with your "date" -- just understand where you rank in his priorities. If you don't come first, you might not want to make him the most important person in your life.
2007-01-15 01:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by takemeawayasfarasyoucan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. Sounds like a lame excuse to me. He was already committed to you and unless he's a complete ignorant fool he knows how important RSVP's are, esp. for a wedding. He could have told his sister about this prior commitment and arranged to have dinner another night or even lunch that day. You don't need this guy. Try to find another date for the wedding and drop this unreliable person.
2007-01-15 01:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be forgiving, because family is pretty important, but it is rude of him to do that to you. If this is just a guy that you wanted to date but is not your boyfriend, then see if someone else can go with you like a guyfriend or some one else that you can have fun with at the wedding. The important thing is to have fun!
2007-01-15 01:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by hol 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, he did tell you he was going to go with you...he made plans with you first...so its kind of rude to back out, especially since its a wedding, and ur boss is probably paying for ur date's seat.
its kind of rude to accept and then back out like that.
but if its for his family that he hasnt seen in a year or a long time, i'd be forgiving, its probably more important than going to ur boss's wedding (who he probably doesnt know).
it all depends on the situation.
2007-01-15 01:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. He committed to you first, and as far as family coming in, out of respect of HIM, they should have no problem with him being gone for a couple of hours when they are staying at his house. If you want to remain in the relationship you will probably end up forgiving him but I would never tolerate being put in second place like that again, not with a specific commitment involving your relationship with your boss??? That is SO disrespectful of you and your needs.
2007-01-15 01:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by D.... 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depend how often he sees his family. I would be a little upset, but I would try to make a compromising. Maybe he could go to the reception with you. Does he really want to go or is it a cop out?? Do some soul searching and learn more before you get upset or not
2007-01-15 01:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little upset. He could always have dinner another night with his family since he already made plans with you. Unless he hasn't seen them in awhile and that's the only day they will be in town then you should be understanding.
2007-01-15 01:11:25 · answer #10 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋