recently i've been hooking up with a close friend but whenever he fingers me he goes really hard like he's having sex with me.
after woulds my vagina hurts for like 2-3days.
did i get infection or something and why does it hurt so much ??
and should i tell him to stop being rough, i just dont want to hurt his feelings as he is a very sensitive shy guy
2007-01-14 17:02:25 · 16 answers · asked by SofBaby 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
instead of being critical you should use positive reinforcement. tell him you like it gentle and slow...then when he does that tell him how much that turns you on. if he's hurting you don't pretend like you like it, because he will only continue doing what he thinks works. just matter of factly tell him that hurts.
2007-01-14 17:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by pandora078 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG you said he was shy and sensitive... he can't be to shy and to sensitive because he is not showin either one in this scenario, if you are letting him finger you that rough where it hurts, he could be bruising your vaginal walls or scratching them.
The only thing you can do is tell him to be more "sensitive" with your vagina, ask him to touch you the way he would like his penis stroked.
Goodluck dear.
2007-01-15 01:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, trying not to laugh here. He is sensitive and shy?? Come on now. He's roughly performing a sexual act on you. Say something or just don't let him do it. I doubt you're going to hurt his feelings and I doubt he is sensitive or shy. If he's that inept, why don't you try telling him what you like or how much he is hurting you.
2007-01-15 01:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by wldntulike_2know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU WILL MORE THAN LIKELY NOT GET AN INFECTION FROM SOMEONE FINGERING YOU, BUT IT IS NOT IMPOSSIBLE, FINGERS CARRY ALOT OF GERMS, AND AS FOR HIM BEING ROUGH WITH YOU WHILE FINGERING YOU, YOU SHOULD REACH DOWN AND GRAB HIS HAND, RIGHT AT THE POINT, WHEN YOU START TO NOT FEEL PLEASURE, AND SAY TO HIM TAKE IT EASY WHILE LOOOKING HIM DEAD IN THE EYE
2007-01-15 01:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take his hand in yours and show him how to do it; men, especially young men, don't understand it's not the thrusting in and out that women enjoy and don't realize it hurts. Speak up and take control of your own pleasure; tell him what you do enjoy and you will both enjoy it a whole lot more!
2007-01-15 01:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bandmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just bruised. If you are worried about his feelings, try guiding his hand with yours. If he gets too rough just say "gently." Us guys are really ignorant about what feels good to women. We need to be shown. He won't be hurt and you'll be happy.
2007-01-15 01:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should not be rough with you. Tell him he is too rough and see if this helps. If it doesn't then see the doc and get checked out. He can't possibly know he is to rough if you don't tell him.
2007-01-15 01:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you would quit letting him go in up to his elbow you probably wouldn't hurt so bad, oh and if you hurt for 2-3 days afterwards it doesn't sound like he is too "sensitive"
2007-01-15 01:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Fire Lt. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been in this situation... like the exact same one. before he fingers you just be like, "make sure your gentle" and bring up stupid comments like "i love when a guy is gentle to me" or while hes doing it be like "try it softer"
he'll do it.
if he's still really rough though,
just say, "hey, be more gentle or we cant do this"
hope it helps!
â¥TOASTERâ¢
2007-01-15 01:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Toaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. You can tell him WHAT you like and HOW you like it, and that by doing it like that it makes you feel better. It shouldn't hurt him, maybe it would make him more concious about your pleasure.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 01:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by azoocart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋