My bio Mom is not living. Is it terribly rude to give her "spot" to a favorite aunt? What if I get married before they do, am I required to give his fiance a special role?
2007-01-14 17:01:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you would rather have someone else than choose someone else. It's your special day and your dad and step mom should understand that it will be hard enough not having your mom there so they should understand your decision to give the person that you want to the role.
2007-01-14 17:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding and if your aunt is closer to a mother figure then its a good idea to give her the actual role of mom-of the bride. But, it might be nice to include your stepmom-to-be in the planning in some way to accept her into your family if you wish, such as bringing her along for cake testing or asking her opinion on things she might know about (although making the final decisions yourself). That way your special day can go beautifully as planned while not making anyone feel too left out.
2007-01-14 17:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by daydreambelievr03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. This woman is not your mother. She is someone your dad wants to be with, and you are an adult with no big emotional attachment to her. I would give your aunt the "spot" and be sure to light a candle or remember your mother during the ceremony in some way.
And if you marry first, she is only your dad's fiance. I would let her (obviously) sit with your dad. But her taking any special part during the ceremony would be asking too much of you.
Sorry if this sounds blunt. I don't mean it to be, but it's so frustrating when parents remarry and expect their children (even when adults) to treat this person like their mother or father, when they aren't.
Good Luck!
2007-01-14 17:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by redhead77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want and what makes you comfortable. If there's someone who has filled in for the mom role for you, include that person. Your new stepmom should not be upset by this, as there are other ways to include her.
2007-01-15 02:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by khy8w2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your wedding and if you are not comfortable with her do not do any thing. there is not any role for the mother if the bride other than sit with the father of the bride and it would look sort of funny with your favourite aunt sitting with your dad and his girlfriend sitting by her self. but you can have your favourite aunt sitting with both your dad and his girlfriend, and at the reception you may introduce her as your honorary mother and not your aunt, I do not think your dads girlfriend would take any offence as your Aunt has been there all your life and she has not
2007-01-14 17:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's no longer going to be a alternative mom for the single you under no circumstances had. She is customary with she is truly no longer, or maybe notwithstanding she would attempt, she is truly no longer. you only would ought to settle for the actual incontrovertible truth that your father is in love. cope which includes her with appreciate and as a pal. She gained't favor you to call her mom, both. call her by using her call. cope which includes her acceptable as a pal, get which includes her. it truly is the superb you may do, and it shouldn't disappoint your father. good success.
2016-10-31 03:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not terrible to give ur moms place to someone u like. dont u think life is for living n giving everybody happiness. if ur mom died there is no mistake of ur aunt in it . so why punish her. instead u should give her the love that u would have given ur real mom.i hope u understand
2007-01-14 18:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you don't have to but it would be nice also you can do a remembrance to your mom by letting white balloons go at the end of your wedding an a special note attached for your mom sent to heaven or you can do a prayer candle in the middle of the ceremony light a candle an take a moment to pray an reflect about your mom
2007-01-14 17:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends how close you feel to your new step mum, if you like your aunt better than give it to her. I'm sure you can involve them both some how.
2007-01-14 20:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you don't want to. If your dad is paying for the majority of the wedding, you might like to discuss it with him.
2007-01-14 17:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by Missing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋