My first g/f and I dated for about 3 years when she left me. All communication was cut immediately via her choice. About 2 years later, the girl of my dreams and I got married. We had actually been friends the entire time I was with the other girl. I am currently 25, happy, and my wife and I have a great life. Sometimes I still miss my previous girlfriend though. I have no intention of ever leaving my wife, but the lingering thoughts of my ex g/f bother me. I'm not sure how she would have been in bed since I and she were a virgin the entire time I was with her, so sometimes I think of her when having sex with my wife. Is this a problem?
2007-01-14 16:27:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with everyone in regards to the closure. I also strongly agree with Ellie about the first girlfriend point. It's kind of funny how we think the first person we love is going to be the love of our life.
2007-01-14 16:47:38 · update #1
hell to the yeah!!
2007-01-14 16:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by uimblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that for about 10 years straight, and had dreams almost every night about the ex. I had to eventually tell my wife about the dreams. She got mad with me about that. I told her that I had no control over my subconscious mind, but she's an idiot. I should've married the ex...or maybe not gotten married at all. Marriage sucks.
2007-01-15 00:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a problem if you make it one.it sound like you did not get the
clousure that you need when you and she broke up. but you need
to move on and start living your life with your wife. other wise'
you will start trouble in this marriage. time to let go and move
on with what you have. if you and this other girl never did it
then why are you thinking about her with your wife, sorry to
say but it nothing to compare to is it....
2007-01-15 00:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems that u havent let go all of ur feelings w/ ur ex when u got married... maybe ur thinking about her coz there's still no proper closure w/ u & ur ex gf.. if u can still try to see ur ex gf & talk to her tell her all u want her to know & listen to whatever she might say - then both of u might have proper closure then. in some sutuation, we must see all our past relationship & make sure we have already proper closure before getting married.
2007-01-15 00:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm... yeah. It is a problem, First of all if you are married with the woman of your dreams then why are you thinking about someone else?.... Move on cause apparently you haven't, and see what's in front of you.
2007-01-15 00:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by jayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem, as long as you just think about her and don't look for her again,if you love your wife like you say you do, then is just a fantasy.
2007-01-15 00:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by pepino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that girl was your first girl friend, she will always have a special spot in your heart. tell your wife though, communication is key in a good relationship, im sure she'll understand
2007-01-15 00:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No as long as you don't scream her name out when your doing your wife
2007-01-15 00:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if it's an obsession.
2007-01-15 00:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah your fked up alright.
2007-01-15 00:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋