And their your BEST FRIEND but after 2 years ya'll can't relate to each other about your relationship with God. Have you been there before in that situation and what happened?
2007-01-14 16:19:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ANSWER FROM EXPERIENCE
I happened to be talking to a friend online who was in this situation, so this is her answer.
It's interesting but people can actually be friends for a long time and have these struggles I was in an unequally yoked situation where the other person did not believe in God. We were married and we entered into this marriage with the premise that... the rest of the world could do whatever they pleased, thought whatever about us but we were committed and we were going to always be there for each other. There were however some forbidden territories (which many relationships have because people do not want to talk about their hurts and tragedies). We 'talked' about those things but we didn't discuss in an open honest way, what the solution might be to some of those things. They wanted to ignore them but I felt that wasn't really an option. So we were at an impasse. I agreed to respect where they were and they respected where i was. when it came to walking out my faith, there were many instances where the other person would really surprise me - because I would pray for certain circumstances to go as God intended... and they did. In a subtle way - God was using me and we were going somewhere. Over time however, they wanted to pursue things in life that were (to me), unethical and destructive. I didn't criticize them but didn't engage in things with them and this hurt them deeply... because all along, we were in it together. I was equally hurt by their inability to check out my perspective and honestly talk and listen about what i was going through.
I believe that unequally yoked situations - founded on respect and trust - and of course FAITH, can seriously be transformed in the presence of God. My relationship was transformed but ended. After a 30 day vigil of praying for their life - they came to me and ended the relationship. God was their #1 reason. They didn't believe (nor would they ever). Funny since i never asked them to...but the life they led in the presence of what I believed God had made sacred...was too much for them and they were refusing to change. If two people are friends... they listen and they love than they could actually (as some couples) explore God together... who He is, His existence... and His love~ if they are willing to take the journey together. If not, pray. Seek God - in all things. Know that what you can say with your heart can be louder than anything you can say with your mouth. Just because they can't hear you doesn't mean they can't hear God. Lastly - keep in mind that this is about eternity and however it turns out, He is the author and will do whatever it takes to help us realize - His awesome love
2007-01-14 16:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by STEPHEN J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friends with someone who don't know God is a challenge, but being married to someone who can't relate to God is very upsetting for the relationship as you are together as one person and that is meant to be in all ways, mind,body and soul. Any kind of division in your relationship that can't be resolved will eat away at your closeness or draw you away from what you truly believe in. Then if you have children it can be very hard for them and they will be torn between you and your spouse's belief and feel they have to choose sides. Remember, never think a person will change for you someday. If anything you will find yourself changing and depending on how strong you are in your faith, you will find that the space that Christ filled may be filled with other things but nothing will ever be the same in your soul. I have been down that road myself and it is not fun at all. Pray but DON'T push!!!!
2007-01-15 00:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by wds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, most my friends are either catholic, babtist, or something similar. We value each other's friendship, so don't push the issue. We agree to disagree and leave it at that. Yeah, sometimes religion comes up, but so long as it's in an honest, open, non-judgemental fashion that we discuss it, it's all good...
It can be worked out, differences in religious beleifs and practices are so common it's unreal... If you're truly friends, religion shouldn't be a problem. And, after two years of friendship, I'd like to think that you two are.
2007-01-15 00:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by Midnight Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian - my husband is Muslim. We have a very strong, loving relationship. However, I believe we are in the minority. You have to be able to give your spouse the love and respect due them without judgment and you need to allow God to do His work within their lives. There are difficulties, especially when you are very committed to your faith. My advise is to find someone with whom you can share everything, especially God! But, I am here to say, that it can work if you are willing to be mature about the situation.
2007-01-15 00:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 20 years, and I've come to the conclusion that it is a bad idea to even DATE, let alone marry, someone who is not on the same page as you spiritually.
2007-01-15 00:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that you love them dearly.... a one-sided relationship isn't good for you. Me, I would get out of the relationship but they would be in my prayers.
2007-01-15 00:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by julie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea, can't say it will not work, but prob not. Sorry. Was married 3 years. Apart now for 6.
2007-01-15 00:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly why God does not want you to be unequally yoked. If the two of you aren't like minded, you'll have divisions and it could draw you away from God. Please choose God.
2007-01-15 00:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋