Ok, I 've like my boyfriend way before we started dating and now I realize that I'm scared of him...not like his going to hurt me kind of scared but in the way of like getting close...I don't mean sex, I mean like emotionally tied close....His oppinion means sooo much to me it's weird...I'm afriad that if I let myself go then if we brake up I won't live through it....not to be dramatic...well, so you know, we have dated before, like for only a month, and I broke up with him after I found out he was with another girl at a party, (again, not meaning sex, but way to close for been having a girlfriend). And it hurt so bad....so the trust isn't as strong but it's there, I forgive and somewhat forget..and we have been going out for alnost four months...so, I was wondering how I can loosen up...thanks..
2007-01-14 16:18:26 · 5 answers · asked by Sugar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright, after reading the comments and thinking....i don't...I know that I really care for him and I would go so far as to say love...
My parents are worried that I will end up marring him and find out later that we are different people, but I disagree, we are the same...I mean, We know what each other is thinking and we spend hours on the phone talking and the sexiest things he does are the little things...like lightly rubbing his thumb up and down my spine or playing with my hands or just looking at me with his blue eyes....I have all these feelings....and I just don't know what to do with them...sorry if I sound crazy... :)
2007-01-14 17:23:29 · update #1
You shouldnt have second thoughts at all cause if you do, those will get in the way of a good relationship.
2007-01-15 05:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Terry The Terrible 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a tough one.. Trust is soooooo important. Being with someone you don't trust is torture, torture for them and you. Believe me, I have been there and done that and it's not fun.You need to be honest with yourself and figure out if you really can learn to trust him again. Does he give you reasons to be jealous? Listen to your woman's intuition... what does your gut tell you about him?
In terms of loosening up.. You have to decide if he's worth it. Again, it all goes back to trust. If you don't feel he is trust worthy, then maybe you shouldn't be emotionally attached. I would recommend taking it a little slow and see how things play out. If he proves that he is worthy of your trust then just let go.. you should keep in mind how he feels about things but ultimately your opinion is the most important one. You can't please everybody! Plus, is it a two way street? Does he take into consideration your feelings in the same manner? Remember "Don't love with your eyes shut so tightly that you can't see who or what it is you are really loving"
2007-01-14 16:33:22 · answer #2 · answered by T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your gut and your heart will tell you if/when the time is right to loosen up. Be patient. There are valid reasons for your fears. Don't disacknowledge your own judgment, don't "jump" and hope for the best. Be rational and give yourself the necessary time it takes to heal and learn to trust again.
2007-01-14 16:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is a huge issue in a relationship. you need to relax, but also make sure that if you want it to be serious, make sure he knows not to mess around! once you get the air cleared and you are on the same page, its all gravy :)
2007-01-14 16:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by worldtravelerrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax and take it easy! let yourself know that he's cheated on you and that HE should be the one caring about YOUR opinion. don't degrade yourself. have some confidence and have your OWN opinion! you can do it!
2007-01-14 16:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋