O.k. I recently broke up with "the boyfriend" of 4 years im very upset....*sohb* .....but honestly i dont think i can take much anymore....nor can i cry so much like before.....anyways it seems like my closure isnt enough for him and he still says he wont stop calling and he wont stop seeing me cause he says its not over......im 20 ..21 in feb and he has been my first im scared to move on. But i know my "relationship" is to destroyed for a comeback and im not sure if i can feel like i did before but truth is i want to wait maybe not date at all to be sencere i never want to feel this pain again......so how can i let him know its really over....should i lie and tell him im with someone else?.....any suggestions?
2007-01-14 16:16:30 · 11 answers · asked by A. RMZ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
note i love him with all i got....and its some one hard to move on.....i cant just call the cops!
2007-01-14 16:21:29 · update #1
i wouldnt tell him your with someone else because that will just make things worse. just tell him flat out. dont be scared to move on. new doors become open for you. take risks. thats what i did and the result, happinnes.
2007-01-14 16:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by John 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to lie, I was in a similiar situation at that age, I broke up with my frist love when i was 21, and it was very hard. I just didn't answer the phone, and made myself unavailable. I focused on my relationship with my friends, i focused on my courses and hobbies. Over time it got easier. Eventaully I dated again, and so did he. We didn't speak for several years, but we are in touch now as friends. Everytime I speak to him, i'm very happy about my decision to break up because I'm a different person than I was at 21, and if i were to have met him today, than when i was 17 or 18, I wouldn't have even considered to date him. So i think in time you'll have respect, and apperication for your relationship..... but just move on.. do the things you love and it will be come easier. He'll move on too. (Just remember, people will keep doing things you don't like just for a reaction, if you don't react they will eventaully stop)
2007-01-14 16:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Em C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being abit obsessive myself I understand his side of it but he has to understand your feelings about this he obviously does not and is making it just that much harder. Tell him that in your mind it is over and you would rather he not continue on with it as it will make you think less and less of him every time he continues..... if that doesn't work ask him if he has ever considered your feelings in this or if he thinks of only himself in which case he is being selfish and showing you that side of him which would cause you to push him away faster than before ...... he needs to grow up and give you some space as that is what it sounds like you need. love is not a one sided thing otherwise it is just obsession and is not returned good luck with it .....believe it or not it will pass and you will eventually find someone right for you ......I finally did but had to wait decades for it to happen and got creamed three times in the process but boy was she worth every bit of it!!!!!
2007-01-14 16:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by doc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth its the best way lying is always wrong and more hurt ful the the other person to. tell him that you don't feel the same way about him anymore. just because this one didnt' work out doesn't mean you should give up either. o and one more thing really think about what your heart is telling you and your head before you tell him to go way..don't have any regrets in life.
2007-01-14 16:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by whatdoesitmatter05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it normal to feel as you do, you were with him for some time. so
there are still feelings that both of you are still dealing with. but
you need to let him know that it over and he need to more on
it will be hard at first but it get better but be honest iwth him
and go from there. if it continue then you may have to go to
the police.hope it does not come to that.
2007-01-14 16:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't lie...but you can let him see you with someone else you can be affectionate with. Let the "other guy" know that you are just using him to get the ex-bf off your back, not to make him jealous. Be sure to select a guy big enough to defend himself in case it comes to fists. If the "other guy" thinks he has further claim to you, you can break up with him.
2007-01-14 16:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by ponysense 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This might be a great time for you to go solo, Aqua-lady. Nothing better than finding yourself before you get into another "relationship". Try it, you might like it...being single, that is.
2007-01-14 16:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tel him that you still want to be friends but if he keeps acting ridiculus then you wont even be his friends.
2007-01-14 16:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont lie just tell him
2007-01-14 16:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
say it's over AND KICK HIM IN DA NUTZZZ
2007-01-14 16:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by mastershake33754 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋