I've been best friends with this guy for about a year now and in December he told me he had a huge crush on me and has since May. I pretty much had felt the same way. The problem is he lives 800 miles away. He came to visit me for 6 days at the end of December. Since we both don't want to have an nternet relationship, we decided to stay friends. We pretty much are boyfriend and girlfriend, but there's no stress and pressure to keep a relationship strong. I've become too attached to him and he's the kind of person who is afraid of becoming to close to someone, so he keeps distancing himself from me. I feel so heartbroken and wonder if I'm wasting my time. It's just the fact that I feel so rejected by him. In real life everything was perfect and we we're so in love. Now he just keeps it at a friendship. He loves me and I love him, but I just feel so shut down. What do I do? Should I try not to become too attatched? Am I over-reacting? I'm really depressed.
2007-01-14 15:58:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you know that he does not like to get to close to people then you should give him his space
if he told you how he feels then that is a better step then most and you being his best friend you should understand what he is doing'
so give him some time and let him get ready for you two to make it to the next level
2007-01-14 16:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by yomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women have a habit of loving and not getting anything in return. We need to learn that when we meet someone that we know is out of our reach just walk away and never let the feeling get started with someone that we know is impossable to love in the first place. when a man says he is a comfirmed bachlor we should run the other way but instead we see a challenge and there we go again. once a person shuts you down don't even try your waisting your time and prolonging the pain.
2007-01-15 00:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by sharon w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be logical it would be hard to maintain anything serious at an 800 mile distance. He is likely distancing himself b/c of that fact. I'd say it's probably best to move on, but that's your choice. If you both want something go for it, otherwise don't waste your precious time b/c life IS short and it's way too short to spend it unhappy. Best wishes to you.
2007-01-15 00:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance crushes are an enigma. but if you truely love this person you should stand up and say something to get his attention, otherwise you are wasting your time and most likely hurting yourself which could cause some deep emotional scars.
2007-01-15 00:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by worldtravelerrr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes its hard to understand the feelings of the boys, we dont know what they are thinking... maybe dont too much focus on him, be friends with others guys and maybe he still waiting the right time to tell you how much he loves you.. respect him and give him the time to think
2007-01-15 00:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by nej24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to read this article http://www.healthadel.com/articles/9/1/Depression-Treatments/Page1.html i found will be useful also has info on different treatments.
2007-01-16 17:36:26 · answer #6 · answered by gooner1212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to be depressed over a MAN...LOL...ok ive composed myself...if it was meant to be, it will be...get over it...
2007-01-15 00:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Jujuchi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋