I am recently single after being in a relationship of 3 years. I read that you should wait at least 90 days before dating again. I have no one in mind, and I seem to attract psychos. I don't drink or smoke, so I don't really like going to clubs...the internet dating sites seem to just freak me out (lol)...do I wait the 90 days then just see what happens, maybe I will meet someone at the grocery store! If it's only been a month and I meet someone, do I tell her "Sorry, I gotta' wait 2 more months before I can date you"?. LOL. Or do I just jump right back in the dating scene? I would love to hear your opinions! Thanx in advance!
2007-01-14 15:58:18 · 21 answers · asked by Boodie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Boodie sorry to hear that you are not longer with your gf :( I have heard to wait a couple of months just so you can heal your heart I guess. I have had a rebound relationship myself and found that I wasn't ready. It was however after 3 weeks of breaking up. If you meet someone that really catches your eye and you feel that you can FULLY move on now, then I wouldn't worry about waiting the typical 90 days. Take a chance and take it slow.
You could easily meet someone where you least expect it and should follow your heart :)
Hope I helped you......
2007-01-15 01:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Here's the thing. People usually say that it is a good idea to wait after a break up. The thing that I have learned from relationships is that they are usually over before they actually end. I can tell you that my marriage was over years prior to us becoming separated and eventually divorced. I would tell you that if you feel that you are ready, then start dating. If you need some time to collect yourself and get back on your feet, then wait a little. 9 days, 90 days or 90 years, it all depends on the person and how they have dealt with the break up.
2007-01-14 16:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by Christinaaaaaahhhhhh 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
That's just a stupid rule. If you have been dating for 3 years and now you stopped, chances are that you'll be hurting for much more than just 3 months if you really loved your ex gf. Rebound relationships have a bad reputation for poor reasons. My relationship with my ex gf could have been considered as a rebound relationship (as only a few months before meeting her I broke up with my then 2.5 year relationship with the prior girl) but it was certainly not. I still love her and I'm still madly in love with her after all this time.
2013-11-05 16:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a quesiton you should be answering yourself.
How do you feel? Was the breakup one of those mutual decisions because you both grew apart? Or was it a breakup that left you in bed for a few days?
Ask yourself this...
Do you find yourself attracted to other women you see?
Then ask yourself this...
Are you interested in another long term relationship tomorrow?
If you answered No to the last question, don't worry. Just be upfront about your expectations and what you want with women you date. After a while, everything will fall into place.
2007-01-14 16:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by faithy_q_t_poo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to wait at least 3 months to give yourself some time to clear your thoughts and reflect on the things that went wrong in your previous relationship and the lessons you've learned. If some girl happens to come along before then that you feel like you HAVE to get to know, you can decide for yourself if you're ready. Just take it slow and don't have any expectations for an outcome.
2007-01-14 16:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yeah as a Psycho magnet myself,I date but for some reason I do the euw thing.
Every one seemed to just gross me out for a while so now I go places but I still am alone and I prefere and like it.
Booty calls even started to suck so that was exnayed.
Couldn't seem to get pleasure out of it too.
So I just make friends if it goes further coo if not oh well,no harm done.
Have fun an be safe.
2007-01-14 16:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly274 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This whole 90 days thing sounds as if it was designed to prevent you from making the mistake of jumping into a bad (rebound?) relationship and potentialy hurt someone else. If you're over the past relationship enough to start dating properly then why miss out on the possible chances?
2007-01-14 16:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bluehat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jump in, it may take a while to find someone. Yeah, the dating sites freak me out too. I think its because all the women are there to be chased, not actually date. I could be wrong, but seems I attract psychos too. How about just not shooting ourselves?
2007-01-14 16:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are no hard and fast rules where dating is concerned. So, you met someone? Keep the relationship casual for a while. Just casual activities, no lovemaking for now. Try just being friends. If it evolves into something more serious eventually then enjoy it but, be cautious and slow.
2007-01-14 16:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you happen to bump into someone you consider "normal" and feel the urge to date, then go for it! Otherwise just bide your time getting to know yourself as a single man again. Decide what you're looking for in a woman, reflect back on where you might have gone wrong in your relationship. Don't concentrate on dating....theres too much living to do to waste time on one thing only. Dating will follow a natural path if you're not looking for it around every corner. Much luck!
2007-01-14 16:04:21 · answer #10 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋