How come i can't?

Question

Well i'm 13 years old.I had a boyfriend for like 3 weeks until my mom found out.But i still had my grades as they always were..but they got higher.i always had a C in math but then i got it to a B and all of my grades were A's and B's.Even though my mom knew i had the good grades she still didn't want me to.I talked to her about it and asked why but she still said no because i was too young.I told her just only once then i will stop and wait until i'm done with college.Why will she not let me date???

She won't even let me date at 16!!

i can't even hang out boys too!Even if we are just friends

Answer 1

Define "dating." Many teens have different definitions of what that really is. Do you mean that you want to "go steady" or "see" a guy or do you mean that you actually want to go somewhere with a guy...like the movies or something...just the two of you?

If you mean the latter, you are DEFINITELY too young. It would be dumb anyway...how would you get somewhere? Parents driving you? Cheesy. Think about it. Wouldn't that just be awkward?

Just wait a few more years and it will mean so much more. Dating is for finding out what qualities you want in a future mate, and you are certainly not ready for that at 13.

I know it is exciting and you are interested in guys, but just chill out and have fun with your friends for now and focus on school. It's way more important at this time in your life.

All the best to you!

Answer 2

She's worried about you. My mom wont let me date until I'm in High School. Now, people any age will hurt you and you have to be careful. I dont think it is about your grades because obviously you are doing well. I think you should start dating before you go to college. That's way too late. Plus, you are only 13. In like 7th grade. It's not like you can go anywhere. And everyone is too poor to buy you a decent dinner. They cant drive you anywhere either. Just wait until you are a freashman then ask her. Right now, all a boyfriend is, is hugging between classes, holding hands while walking and that's it. Later on, I'll be dinner and a movie. That's way better. Just wait and it will be better.

Answer 3

You're mom is just probably worried that you are only 13 years old, which is fairly young for a person to start dating. That, and shes probably worried about the fact that all teenage boys have the same thing on their mind once they reach that age, and doesnt want her daughter doing those things. It sucks, i know, but wait til high school at least before you start developing serious relationships.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Your mom doesn't want you to date because you are still her "baby" in a sense. She wants to keep you that way for as long as she can just try and speak to your mom on an adult level and maybe make her see that your boyfriend was helping you to increase your grades and maybe she will let you see him a few days out of the week just for "tutoring" if anything. Just try and understand where she is coming from but most of all remember you're her "baby" and she loves you and doesn't want you to go through any harm. Hope this helps! Good luck.

Answer 5

Even though you don't feel like it, honey you are too young to actually date. Maybe your mom wouldn't object to him coming over for dinner or to watch a movie with you, as long as you are chaparoned. Your grades are good and it sounds like you are a good girl, but your mother is only trying to protect you for now. I didn't let my daughters date until they were 16. I know that may sound old fashioned to you, but believe me when I tell you to listen to your Mom. She has your best interests at heart because she LOVES you and she does know what she is talking about.

Answer 6

Sounds like the classic case of the over protective mother. You mother may feel like you do not fully understand a relationship. She may only be thinking of your age and that yes you should wait until your older to have a relationship. What your mother cant see is that at your age, (lets face it 13 is to young, to be commited to a SERIOUS relationship), you are only looking for a boyfriend, maybe to go to the movies have fun, hang out with, someone to feel loved from, and give your love to. You may need to sit down and discuss this one with her. She may have other reasons, what you need to do, is make her see how mature you are, that it is more acceptable these days to have guy friends, and sometimes boyfriends at your age. Maybe your mother really does have other reasons, you wont know unless you talk to her.

Good luck xox

Answer 7

If he was your first boyfriend then she's just inexperienced and petrified you're going to end up pregnant and dropping out of school or something. There's not much you're going to be able to do to alleviate this fear in your mom, so as irresponsible as it may be of me to suggest this - decide now if you really want to keep seeing this guy and if so find a way to see him so your mom doesn't find out (after school, weekends, whatever - tell your mom you're going to a friend's place but make sure your friend is on your side and ready with "sorry, she's in the shower" if your mom calls her). Otherwise, you'll have to just deal with it until your mom feels more comfortable with you seeing guys.
Good luck!

Answer 8

13 is a bit young to date sorry , your mom has your best interests at heart and knows best . She was your age once also , keep that in mind . It's normal for you to want to date but you should wait till your 16 and then it would be OK.

Answer 9

I agree, parents know best. Your young and believe it or not, school is more important right now. You have a lifetime ahead of you for boyfriends but most of all, your education is most important. That's your future and that's what will play the major role in your life to come.

Answer 10

Depending on how old your boyfriend is, she may think he's to old. And your Mom LOVES you, and is looking out for you. What your just starting to go through she has been through. She really does know what she's talking about.