My girlfriend often tells me that she wouldn't leave me if I cheated on her. How am I suppose to take that? She said that doesn't mean to go out and do it but she said she wouldn't leave me if I did...Should I be worried? I often wonder if she has cheated on me that's why she says that.
2007-01-14 15:53:57 · 30 answers · asked by Outlaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think its a test. She's looking for you to assure her that you would never do that.
2007-01-14 15:57:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it's interesting, I used to tell myself this all the time when I was little....
that I'd be the best girlfriend in the world and never break up with my boyfriend, even if he cheated.
I'm not sure where that thinking comes from, but now I know it's not right. I think a guy would want his girlfriend to be upset, right? Or else the relationship has no real meaning in the first place.
My advice is to ask her what she means by that. She obviously has thought this through and has her reasons for saying it. It would open up a good conversation before you go any further with things. Good luck. Thanks for the question.
2007-01-14 15:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by kannajo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, that could mean that she loves you so much that she would forgive you and continue loving you, even if you cheated on her, -or-, two; she has or is cheating on you and hinting for you to feel the same way as she would for you if you were to have found out about this--or put simply, still love her even if she's cheating on her. Or, even a third, she knows your cheating (or she thinks your cheating) but she's telling you that she still loves you, even though you're cheating and maybe a little hint of "stop it please because I still love you! >n
I don't really know much about your girlfriend, but given the circumstances and related to the little brief information you've given me, I wouldn't be too worried. If I was a guy and my girlfriend told me that although I wasn't cheating, I would be suspicious that she's cheating on me but tell her back "I'll still love you too, even if you're cheating on me"--although that's a lie but that's what girls want to hear. o-o~
Good luck! d(^-^d )
2007-01-14 16:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a little odd. I think that maybe the best thing to do is the next time she says that statement (which sounds fishy to me) would be to confront her as to why she says that repeatedly. Be sure to do so in a calm, non-confrontational manor, ie: don't turn it into a fight. Simply ask why she says that. It could simply mean that she loves you very much or perhaps has some other undertone. It's a delicate situation, hopefully this helps some and good luck.
2007-01-14 16:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Porterhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually took this as she has no backbone. Like she's telling you that you can walk all over her and she would still stay with you. I would be more worried about her not having a strong personality than her cheating on you.
She SHOULD care and you need to tell her that until she does, then you WOULD leave her. See if THAT makes her care!
Good luck.
2007-01-14 15:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't go into negative answers. She just loves you. It is her way of telling you that. Don't assume that she has done the same unless you have some solid proof. Don't destroy your relationship on useless suspicions. She might be just being nice to you.
On the other hand, it may a safe bet that you actually never cheat on her. I don't think she is doing this 'cause she has cheated on you. There are several other ways to tell and handle that.
2007-01-14 16:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be showing her loyalty and how much she loves you. Also, if you ever did cheat on her, you might find that she would be so hurt that she would in fact leave.
If you are questioning her motives for making this statement, talk with her. Personally I would find it annoying if my partner said this to me all the time.
2007-01-14 15:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been wondering about her cheating for some time before she said that, and it's due to actual signals that you're getting rather than past experience, then you should definitely worry. I think I'd probably worry anyway, but perhaps you should observe her behavior objectively. Listen to your gut feeling.
2007-01-14 16:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would deffinately be worried. Her sharing that she doesn't mind if you cheat on her shows that she doesn't want you to mind if she cheats on you. This shows unfaithfulness and is not a good basis for a strong relationship. Talk to her about your faithfulness to each other. If she still doesn't seem to think that cheating on your boyfriend/girlfriend is a big deal, it may be time to break ties.
2007-01-14 16:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by wolface6999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely a strange comment to make. You could just read between the lines and think that she loves you so much that she wouldn't leave you no matter what you did.
Next time she says that .....ask her what makes her say it.
Take it from there.
2007-01-14 15:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Edisto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she has cheated and doesn't want to feel guilty about it or she is extremely insecure and clingy. Something tells me you know her well enough to know what the answer is. I understand your logic...if someone would put up with this..maybe they expect you to do the same.
2007-01-14 16:00:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋