i have been tring to tell my parents im prgnant for a long time. they know but we have never discussed it. its killing me. its not like i can hind it anymore im due in 19 days. i relly want to talk to my mom about it but something keeps holding me back. i also need to go to the doctors again. i did the first half of my prgnacy and just kind of stopped. i realize how bad that is but i do so much to keep me and my baby healthy so dont judge. i know i will need a c-section due to a back ingury 3 years ago. so i really need to go get one schedualed. i dont know how to go about talking to my mom and i still need to prepare for when the baby arives. help please and don't be mean. im so overly hormonal lately.
2007-01-14 15:48:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You just need to be open and honest and do it. You have to do it for your baby. You are going to need lots of things for your baby and lots of help from your parents. Its only fair that you ask them for help before the baby arrives.
Are you keeping the baby or are you contiplating adoption?
2007-01-14 15:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mom, if you can't is there another person that will approach you mom with you? You can do this alone, but it will be so much harder. Your mom may react angrily, but she will settle down, especially when she realise how long you have been keeping a secret.
And I am not been mean, but the hormones won't go away when the baby gets here, it will take months for you to get back to some sort of normality - taking into account the baby.
You need support, if your mom won't give it to you there is help out there. Ask your doctor or midwife - no one wants to see a mother and young woman doing it on their own.
Good luck - hope all goes well!!!! The child will make it all worthwhile!!!
2007-01-15 00:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Traveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, you definitely need to see a doctor soon so that you can register with the hospital ahead of time.. also, they can do an ultrasound to make sure the baby and you are ok. i just delivered my 4th and have back injuries so a c-sec isnt necessarily required. just depends on how serious your injuries are. you dont mention how old you are .. im assuming under 18.. you should just find a quiet moment when you and your mom can talk calmly about the situation. let her know your feeling (scared, uncomfortable etc) and just open the door. i remember the first time i was pregnant..i didnt tell my mom till i was 6 months pregnant. but i promise you, she will be there for you..just give her a chance... all moms will love unconditionally. they may not like what you have done but they will always love you and support you. Good luck to you and your new baby... wish you the best!!
2007-01-15 00:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by sylonthego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely can't hide it anymore!! If you're due in 19 days and will require a C-section then you need to call your doctor ASAP and go to an appointment: they need to be aware of this and be prepared in case you start contractions earlier. As far as talking to your mom sit her down and tell her that you know that she's had to notice and it's time to talk about it because it's time. If you think she "knows" but you've never told her, then she may have been mentally preparing herself and just hasn't got the courage up either! For the most part, she may be in shock, but MOST get over it and plow ahead doing what needs done. Good luck, congrats and all hopes for a good future for you and your baby!
2007-01-14 23:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your Mom to be on your team for the baby...the ensuing little one is what should me primary on everyone's agendas right now...I'm not sure why you don't feel comfortable talking with your Mom about her coming grandchild, but I'm sure that's a tough situation for you both. Just let your Mom know how much you need and would appreciate her being there for you in the coming weeks...she's been there and been through it with you and can be an excellent source of knowledge and support...I say just get it over with..talk to her...and then you won't have that hanging over your head and can focus on what's really important...the baby! Good luck, congratulations, and many blessings to you both! :) :) if your Mom doesn't support you sufficiently, find a great friend who will go through these final steps with you...you need someone..okay..~
2007-01-15 00:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by pursuit_of_happyness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to suck it up and tell her. Tell her that you know she is disappointed in you and that you are sorry, but right now, all that really matters is that child.
I know that you are scared. I've been there before. I didn't tell my mom I was pregnant until the end of January, my son was born at the start of April. She was disappointed but it was not nearly as bad as I had imagined it would be. (Gotta love that imagination, always tends to work overtime lol)
You need to tell someone and get to the doctor and make sure everything is ok. You're going to need the support of someone who loves you. I've noticed from my experience and other's, that things change so much when that child is born too. My dad didn't talk to me for the longest time (although I rather enjoyed that lol) but when my son was born, he instantly bonded with him. My parents went from being "disappointed" to being wonderful and caring grandparents. All that mattered was that we were both healthy and safe.
2007-01-15 13:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by totsandtwins04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mom. I kinda went threw the same thing when I was trying to tell my parents I was getting married. Your parents may be upset at first but they will adjust and be there for you more then you know. You need them to be there for you and your baby..If you are due in 19 days I am sure they already know they just haven't said anything they are waiting for you to tell them. Just do what is best for you and your baby..Tell them right away..Parents love you unconditionally and everyone has problems sometimes but I promise they will understand (good luck) and congradulations on the baby!
2007-01-14 23:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Nessie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up REALLY fast. If you think you are mature enough to have this baby, you need to act like it. Just be brave and start talking about it. Tell them you need to go see the doctor. By bringing it up, your family will probably start wanting to help you get ready. HURRY! You can do it. Be strong for your child! God be with you and your family.
2007-01-14 23:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first relax if its that obvious that she knows shes waiting for you and if you are going to grow up to take care of a child its necessary right now to show how grown up you are and I'm not being mean just saying right now your mom wants you to show her and tell her how much you've changed so do it you are all walking on glass for no reason except to delay the inevitable and it should stop yesterday. so do the right thing and get your self together for your child and make the plans necessary to have him/her.
2007-01-14 23:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by lola1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Do you live with your Mom? You just need to be an adult (cause that's what you are now) and sit your Mom down and say "we HAVE to talk about this". It's coming no matter what! Good luck to you.
2007-01-15 00:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by euphoriarevelation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋