Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now, we met when we were 19. And we are getting ready to go to the next level. I want to make it special. and YES we are going to use a condom, and yes I am on birth control. And it would be my first time, and I no we are in love. But I need to no some secrets. Please Help.
2007-01-14 15:39:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, learn how to use "SPELL CHECKING".
2007-01-14 15:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by rocketcarhead 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well even though it's your first time, men like it when you take control. You can try being on top and maybe use your animal instinct like, gently scratching him with your nails or move around like a cat does(slowly). Sometimes it's good to be aggressive and touch him all over but, don't go over board or anything. If he is not experienced either then maybe you could go to the library and find some books that can help explain in detail some things you will need to know. Don't be shy. Keep some baby wipes near by so that you can stay clean too. If you too are really comfortable with each other, you could always start off in the shower with candle light and then move to the bed room. Being that it is your first time and you really want it to be special, you could always go to Wal-Mart and buy a whole bunch of roses and take the pedals off and lay them all over the bed before you make love.
2007-01-14 15:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...pretty impressive, dating two years and not doing it. It's your first time, and there really is no right or wrong, and no real secrets. At least for this time....but for now, try not to concentrate on how it feels..it's going to hurt a little..it's going to feel funny and it's going to burn a little (physically speaking) so don't freak out. Use lubricant. And lots of it. He's not going to last very long, either, so don't expect it to be the best sex of your life. it won't. concentrate on WHY you're doing it. You're in love, and that's the best reason. But, a personal secret....in a bed, under a nice warm blanket. Makes it more intimate. and see if he can bring you to orgasm first, either with his hands or with his mouth. If you're not inhibited about it. May help with the pain. Hope this helps.
2007-01-14 15:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by yzma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand you want to make it special, but I agree with most of these guys...let it be natural. Don't be nervous...he is probably just super thrilled you are both going to be intimate. Good for you for taking precautions and knowing what you want.
I don't want to tell you what to do after telling to just do what feels natural, but I will give you some general recommendations:
The first time....do it in candlelight or firelight if you can.
Without being graphic, we all have errogenous zones...read up a little on where a guy's are...and don't be afraid to tell him what you like.
Use your entire body...don't just lie there. Use your hands, legs, mouth...don't tense up...relax.
Okay...I won't say anymore. I hope it is very special for you! And remember...being a great lover takes practice.
2007-01-14 15:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww how exciting! i am 19 and lost mine to my wonderful boyfriend just this year. it's better to be "older" (at least in my personal opinion) you know, 19, 20, 21, etc than to be 15 or 16 and just doing it for the heck of it.
basically relax, if both of you are first timers it will be awkward at first. there will probably be some laughing and all of that! but sex is pretty natural and you'll know what to do. let him know what works for you and what feels good! don't be scared, be safe and have fun.
2007-01-14 15:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Yelena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a secret for you. If both of you are deeply in love with each other, there would be no need to be asking this on a yahoo question and answer board. This already proves you have hestiation about your choice. If you were really sure then you would have noone to ask about it. All this is telling me? You have reservations about your choice. Sounds to me that you need to think about your decision more. Its ok not to be ready. Don't please anyone" But You" when it comes down to this big decision.
2007-01-14 15:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need the book Drive Him Wild 100 sex tips for women, by Kate Bevan, you can get it from books a million or the net.
Anyway, look it over, and go with what you think you will like.
Oh yeah, make sure he likes it too, or he might get weirded out. Don't stress over trying everything, that's what the next time is good for.
You could also get a Pocket Karma Sutra, and get some ideas from that.
Go with what feel comfortable to you.
2007-01-14 15:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by liquidblue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
' It sounds like you've covered the "responsibility" part, so relax! You've been dating this person for two years--you know him! You should be comfortable enough to talk to him about whatever you're thinking and feeling and that's what makes sex when you're in love special-being able to express what you think,want and feel.
2007-01-14 16:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by raymondloca 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree to take it slow and let it happen. But don't expect things to be wonderful the first time. Understand that you will have to find the things that work for you. Take your time and tell him what feels good -- and what doesn't -- you want him to be gentle with your body -- and you need to be gentle with his ego.
2007-01-14 15:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by snickersmommie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can tell u is to make sure u are comfortable with it otherwise its gonna be a nervous mess and make sure he is the one u really want to be ur first cause those firsts are very special we never forget those... most important be yourself, have fun, and go with the flow... have fun :)
2007-01-14 15:43:48 · answer #10 · answered by steph 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax...take it slow. Be honest to each other. Don't expect too much the first time.
2007-01-14 15:44:54 · answer #11 · answered by Mickey22_jp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋