Have you ever had a bad thought about a girlfriend/boyfriend before? this guy i really like, i thought he talked gay sometimes but he really doesn't i think maybe it's just a dif. accent or something. Sometimes i think it and i really mean it so it's not a unwanted thought but i feel i have to tell him just like if i think something he does looks gay or something. Do i have to? Does everyone have things like this? i feel like i am keeping something from him if i don't tell him i think that about him sometimes ..especially if we got married wow i would feel guilty lol
2007-01-14 15:33:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not gay
2007-01-14 15:33:37 · update #1
Every thought does not need to be expressed. Holding your tongue is a sign of maturity. Imagine if he decided he'd feel guilty if he didn't tell you how big he thought your butt was. Not nice.
2007-01-14 15:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is gay and it worries you, you would be silly to marry him.
You cannot change people, and if anything concerns you, then you have to move away.
Telling him you think he's gay won't solve anything..it would just cause more problems.
Some women marry gay guys thinking they will change them once married....it does not happen like that....You have to accept the person as they are or move on...
Talk does nothing but create issues to be brought up later...Many words spoken are better left unsaid.
2007-01-14 23:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Maggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you can get him to play a game, but it is risky for both of you. Most people can not handle this game. It consists mainly of one main question, "Tell me one thing you would like me to change about myself." Then you take turns and don't get defensive. Don't be mean. You could them bring up what he does that you think is gay by saying could you stop doing _______________ You would not have to say you think it is gay. Just ask him to stop doing it because it is something you are just not that wild about.
2007-01-14 23:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not tell him. Judgment on whether a guy is gay or not should not be based on voice, rather on actions. You will make him self conscious forever if you tell him this. It's only your opinion. You could lose his friendship.
2007-01-14 23:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok check this out, if that is ur biggest problem with him, ur running a pretty good life. Seriously though all my girlfreinds i have always wanted them to tell me the truth even if it hurt i would love them more for being honest to me.
2007-01-14 23:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are very sensitive about this sort of thing so tread very carefully, whatever you do, and good luck.
2007-01-14 23:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can just talk to him about the way he dresses or talks or whatever....
2007-01-14 23:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go
2007-01-14 23:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋